Have any of you found anything spooky or supernatural in your family trees? Any ghosts or psychics or witches?
I was searching ancestors names on the New Zealand newspaper archive and while searching about one ancestor who disappeared in a swamp in 1863, I found some later mentions of a ghost story that to me seems clearly inspired by the disappearance.
In real life, a woman called Sarah Gaffney disappeared in the swamps that used to be around the town of Featherston in the Wairarapa region of New Zealand, and was never found, and her husband William died a few years later. https://paperspast.natlib.govt.nz/newspapers/WAIST18670518.2.11 (around half way down the page with the header "Lost in the Bush.") https://paperspast.natlib.govt.nz/newspapers/EP18740406.2.14.3
The first mention of the ghost is from a story about some soldiers encounter with the ghost while they were marching over the hills in that area in 1917, and although the ghost is male and is said to have "lost his way in the thickly-timbered hills" instead of a swamp. https://paperspast.natlib.govt.nz/newspapers/DOM19170215.2.46
And there is a second mention in a sort of letters to the editor section from 1923, mentioning that the story had been told in the writers childhood. In this version again the ghost is male, and "said to have vanished from mortal ken after setting out to search on the Rimutakas (mountains) for his wife, who had just previously wandered from home.". Apparently Gaffney's ghost haunted the hill road and followed travellers. https://paperspast.natlib.govt.nz/newspapers/DOM19230621.2.76 (the text starting with "N.J.B." about half way down)

I’ll start this with a solid “help me Obi(Any)-Wan, you’re my only hope…”
Our LO is 11 weeks old, we’re just going through the process of transitioning over to Formula (Enfamil Neuro Pro Gentlease) and it’s become a painful experience. She has Acid Reflux and is on Famotidine for that, which helps a ton, we had issues with just breast milk (spitting up and fussing) and wanted to try formula, we’re half way through weening her over and currently doing a 50/50 mix of Breast Milk and Formula, however over the past 48 hours everything has started to change for the worst, we’ve seen increased fussing to the point of me describing feeding her as trying to stay on a Rodeo Stallion, 1 projectile vomit around 1.5 hours after the previous feed, a pretty prominent red rash across her face with bumps in it (Hives?) and general spitting up again even with the Famotidine in her system.
Thoughts we’ve had so far.. - Nipple is wrong (wouldn’t help the rash, but might help the craziness) so we’ve tried 2, 3 and 4 nipples (Philips Avent Natural Flow) and she’s the same with each - Could this be an intolerance to the Formula/Cows Milk Protein? We’re not seeing the rash anywhere else and her diapers aren’t bloody or diarrhea - Is this just normal transitioning stuff? - Is the rash contact dermatitis? We haven’t changed anything in what we use on ourselves or her apart from changing her bath from J&J to a completely hypoallergenic one as post 2 month shots she got a rash and we were advised to do this, but the timeline doesn’t correlate with this issue
Any advice or just sharing any similar experiences would be appreciated from this awesome community, my Wife and I are worried/exhausted/frustrated/frantic…

Got a promotion two years ago that preferred if I moved to a town 2 hours away. I liked where I was at so I called there bluff and was able to work just as efficiently from home, so no one pressed the issue, so I started saving for a house.
Then my slum lord of a land lord decided that his finances where not as much as he wanted and kicked me out of my place so he could live in it. So I decided that this would be a good time to look to move and buy, at lease the market isn’t as crazy as it was 2 year ago. Really lucked out on my realtor, who was absolutely amazing, and pointed me to this house that wasn’t on the market yet, but was almost finished getting fixed up by a contractor to hit the market in a week. Looked at the house and realized what a jewel it is, she’s 97 years old but she has been well taken care of and in an amazing part of town. So I made an offer that was there asking price before it hit the market, and it was accepted!
I learned later that there was many interested parties waiting for it to hit the market, but since my realtor was also the listing agent for this house I was able to make an offer before it hit the market.
I am so excited to start the next stage in life, hopefully finding a wife is just as easy lol! j/k

I just wanna vent.. don't need any suggestions...just feeling like to tell someone that's it... I helped my boyfriend when he is in the worst stage of his life..I don't know he is not working..he took me that he needs to pay EMI..I trusted him..when we enter into relationship he introduced me to his family i thought he is very genuine about me ..we stay in Bangalore parents in different state.. parents and me both don't know that he is not working...he use to gave me due dates but never use to pay them i got to know he is not working..he is pathalogical compulsive lier..he lied about each and every thing mostly about his job and money..one day i gave him support like he should speak with his mother about this. She talks very nicely to me like a understandable person .his situation getting worse because already he took lots of money from me and even from his friends..he can't even pay his rent so i made him to open about he don't have a job..with my support in conference call he told his mom...his mother infront of me reacted like a understandable person but with him she scolded like anything. We can say torchering in a call like abusive..I understand his situation like a wife and helped some more amount by taking from others..he said he will get job and he repay me all the amount..months are going but he is not working infact he lied 3 to 4 times by showing fake call letters...it took me some time to realise he won't change..he use to say sometimes his friend going to give tomorrow..and he use to take today some more amount..like this happened few times...when his mother got to know about that he took money from me she promised me that she will repay me ..days are going..she also did just like her son.. giving date and not paying on that date . infact she missuseing the respect which i am giving as a future mother-in-law.by saying about sad stories about thier financial problems...in this mess i was there for one and half year...I lost trust on him and his family too.. i started fighting for my money..he is one side lieing that he is gonna take from others or gonna work and repay...and on the other side his mother not picking my calls...I got to know that he is not working because he don't have MBA.. ofcourse he can work with his bcom but he is not even doing that...I got to know...when he is in the first year if MBA ..he stayed with some friends who are somewhat richer than him ..they use to go trips and having foods more from outside...to hide his financial problems he started taking money from other friends and used for all this.. when he entered into 2nd years final semester all this came on his head. He doesn't have a option to use his college fee for that..they why he couldn't attend his final exam and dropped out in between.. i understand his life is completely mess. Without knowing all this things about him ..I thought I should love him the best i can....I took a promissory note from him in the last December when his lies going beyond..even his mother said she is not responsible for his loans..so i took a promissory note for my safety.. he said usually same lies. He is going to pay in a month..on January..he didn't paid . infact he said his mother going to pay ..on January..he said she is not picking because she is angry at you....so i called with different number to his mother and asked for my money..and told her about promissory note..she blackmailed me litterally..she said she won't pay...then okay fine i will proceed with court..but she said if i am gonna go for court she will go for my dad and tell about our relationship..she can tell when we are in relationship but it's already ended..and even she mentioned she will show some private pics to my neighbours..she litterally said she will ruin my family reputation..if i go for court..I am almost dead that day..I kept huge amount in them even i have a proff to get my money back but not able to do anything..yeah i know everyone says you tell your parents...it's not that easy as you said .... After 2 days i got a call from him that his mother pay next month..even she sent a voice message...so i thought I will wait when they will give..they didn't gave me on March..so i told him .if you don't pay as your mom said...I come to your home directly for my money..instead of you people coming i come there and sit in police station..I called that station police station...do you know what he said .he talked very rudely...with name of love you people do bullshit things but in the end you people will be back to us .like this I don't have anyone's help i don't have close friends also ..so thought of talking police help but this happened Then i waited one more month as they said they gave one excuse and made it to may..in may i said i won't spare this time. To stop me coming to thier native they send me one more promisary note with his parents signatures..I asked to send because his mother said she is not responsible for his loans in the past..they send so i waited...she told me that June 5th she is gonna pay... By the way i wanna clear few things i never thought of going to thier native..I said because atleast they get scared as i get scared when they said to me..if i really wanna go and spoil thier name i would of gone on February only.. Yesterday i got a call from him.. he said he is going to pay half amount now and remaining half in coming 10 days. I said i want full amount..he said if he don't give after 10 days i will come there...
I didn't get money ..so what i did i called them...his phone he never gives to his mom. Surprisely his mom picked and said if you want your money come and give note and take money...
I asked either one of you can come and give..or you can send online i will spoil that paper infront of you in video call or i will send by post once I received money..but she said very rudely if you don't want leave it...if want come. Then she cut the call..I litterally begged him yesterday please send online..I can go but i need to travel whole night and when j receive money immediately i can't return because again night only busses are there...
In that whole day i should sit somewhere in bus stop or somewhere like i don't have shultter being a girl i am scared somewhat..I know they are not calling me to kill because i will take money in a public place....
I requested him ..he said it's not in my hands i am not paying my mom paying..if you want come or else no your wish he said..very rudely....
I was already broken when I know he is lied and our full relationship went with lies..then his mother made me feel like they are some humans who are curuel and keeps a face mask as a nice person..and police made me feel like i can't get anyones help...I am completely broken from inside..there are lot of kind people and good people in this world why i went to this mess World ..they are very rude and abusive... mentally i darined...now i should go today if i want money....I really wish no one should go from this kind of things.. mentally what i faced and how it effected my lifestyle i can't even express in words...

to be honest not sure why I'm even here typing don't see anything coming from this I don't really know how to even do this rofl to be fair I don't even understand have the emotions and maybe that's the luck I got out of it maybe that the curse I was delt or maybe I have some purpose but I'm sick of it sick of all the issues and sorrow the pain and suffering and half the time I don't even understand the emotion here's but here's my story.
i need to get alot of my chest im a survivor of abuse neglect and molestation im also the child of a divorced family and the oldest. i have all the good memories of dad i have good memories up until we left though those good times came with having seizures and flatlining at 3 years old for 1 minute and 2 seconds I survived but why though anyways. mother told us we were going on vacation i was 7 my siblings were under 4 they don't really remember much though 1 remember we moved across from Tennessee to Arkansas to Nebraska the trips are a blur we never went back my mom moved us in with her dad though that's where her dad abused my little brother he got it bad there... my mom met a man through her dad he is my sisters dad he's also my nightmare that I can't forget. my mom let this man horrifically abuse us strip us beat us shoot guns at us while she was at work we cried and cried screamed we watched as our next abuser put his head through a wall this was in another state everything goes so fast skip forward and I got the worst of that abuse.. I protected my siblings and they won't ever know. he kills himself a year after my sisters born my mom is with a foreigner nothing wrong with that though we went from physicaly abusive to verbally abusive I guess that's a step up never understood that one. my sister thinks this person is her dad real dad she never knows about what happen to us we were told if we ever tell anyone were disowned forever. my whole life after that I was abused misdiagnosed thrown on pill after pill by doctor after doctor all because I wanted to live with my dad at 14 they stuck me in mental places I was forever scarred I was abused in one of those places to have the name memorized and all. was bullied made fun of jumped put in special education classes. guess what I gave up no one listened so I rebeled tatted up watched anime and played video games i never really understood the world. I lived in my own world too never break I graduated though my friends well not no more haha j asked for a cigarette and I got drugged by a friend of a friend which my friend didn't know he's the one who called my mom because one guy isn't gonna stop 5 or more lol I got drugged and beat up my heart stopped for 2 minutes lol I survived why??? lol makes no sense. I was 18 had heart break after heartbreak cheated on abused used through high-school and through adult life got used because I was attractive and good and bed I had 2 beautiful daughters with an abusive woman im 5ft 9 she was 6ft5 she cheated on me had another man's baby and married the maitance man from our old apartments before 1 got into an accident and was told I'd never walk again. skip years down it hasn't been easy for me l've been hoping places since I left when I was 18. I moved to TN made up with my dad started to have a good relationship had to leave but left with a wife and two kids who have no dad I took them in they call me dad. my wife and 1 lost are child though 6 months ago he was full term his cord wrapped around him I unfortunately saw and I unfortunately had to take care of him and wipe his blood of him in the room the nurses were crap but I did it so she could say her goodbyes I had to be the strong one. we moved to get my kids :/ they are being abused were getting custody but I'm working 276 hours monthly im drowning and not only that I'm now almost 29 and found out I had autism my whole life my mom never wanted me to know she didn't want me to feel stupid (narsicist) and I decided to open up about my abuse and I got disowned and she turned my whole family against me for the secret or me even opening up so ehh I guess no family now it's been a year almost since they said they disowned me and wanted nothing to do with me sorry if I'm all over the place I don't really care just need to get this off my chest..
just sucks I feel alone yet I'm married my partner doesn't appreciate me it feels like and I'm autistic and fucking awkward I have no friend yet I'm super fucking attractive I guess is what I'm told like I fucking don't understand this shit .. I just want to work hard make money protect my kids and be happy and have friends yet I try and try and try and nothing happens yet I male good money I'm a good human being I am super silent and I keep to myself but when I'm myself yeah I'm just weird and annoying.

My wife and I started a new flower shop last November in Virginia. The phase of build-out has done last month. For the past few months, we've slowly shopping for our inventory and fixtures. One of the main required fixtures has been a display cooler.
Just for the context, a display cooler for flower is similar to the merchandise ones where you can see in shop to hold beers/bearages.
However, it requires more humidity to keep the flower freah so it's cost more and not common in the market.
Upon searching online, we came across the flower display coolers on a retailer named coolerdepotxxx.com which locates in California.
So for the past few months, we asked them questions about the coolers i.e. the specs so that we could submit to the builders for the electrical load permit.
Everything was fine until early May 2023, when we decided to move forward with the purchase. The sale rep named O has been working with us provided an invoice of the company's banking so we could wire the fund (to save the 3% fee using other payments)
We wired the money of $12,250 for 2 coolers with including shipping / lift gate services on May 5th (Friday).
The money went through.
I didn't heat any update from O for the next few days. Checking the online order didn't show anything about the information of the shipment.
So on Wednesday, May 12th, I contacted O to no available, then I called the main line to find out O has been out sick for a few days. I got advised from another sale rep to contact main office by email which I did.
I received responses from the manager, V,with the tracking number of the shipment so to this point, everything was back in track.
I received the 2 coolers on Wednesday 5/17. The shipping company lowered the 2 coolers down to the parking lot in front of our store with all package secured and left asfter I signed the received paper.
I hired the local mover company that day (scheduled ahead to bring the 2 coolers inside the store). It took 3 guys 2 hours to break the box, unpack the wrapping and move each cooler inside the store.
Once the coolers were inside, I realized the compay shipped to me the 2 different coolers from what I paid.
The coolers that I paid for was their top of the line, FC4 model.
The model that they sent are not even on their website. The only thing they have that similar to what I received is the model 040910 on clearance with about $2000 less for each.
I called the sale rep O right away, and then being helped by different guy, J who said O was no longer working there, and J would be assigned to help me on my order.
I explained the situation to him, sent him all pictures of what I received, and the difference between the FC4 that I paid for, the the 040910 ones that I received.
He promised to bring it up to the managers to see if they could help with either sending me 2 FC4 anf take back the wrong ones or simply returning the difference in money between 2 models.
I didn't hear anything from J so on May 18, I contacted the store via email which once again, the manager, V, responded.
He claimed that his company sent me 2 new coolers, and he didn't see any issues / problems at all. While I tried to explain the wrong items and he didn't want to acknowledge that nor wanted to call me so we could speak.
5/18, I called my WellsFargo bank explained the situation to them who opened a claim on my behalf to try to get the difference of money based on what I explained up there.
Wellsfargo advised me to not use the coolers nor contact the store further until they could work with their bank,Bank of America.
Past Friday, 6/2, WF called to inform me they tried but BOA / seller refused to cooperate.
Sorry for the long post, but what options do I have at this point?
Please help as I have never sued anyone in the past.
I just want them to refund the difference in money from what I paid for the top products vs the low quality ones that I received. Not trying to creat issue with exchange since it involves shipment accross the country and time wasted.

TL;DR my wife was slightly abusive years ago, and after coming out as polyamorous and finding a new partner, her abusive ways have started to resurface again. How can I fix this and save our relationship?
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. This is a bit of a longer post so bear with me. About four (4) years ago, I married the love of my life who I had known for several years in college before dating. Besides a few red flags, she was truly the perfect woman and I couldn’t be happier with her. My wife became pregnant about 2 years into our marriage, and at first we were both ecstatic.
My wife first began to change during her pregnancy, which I mostly chalked up to her hormonal imbalance and she would become irritable and sometimes hostile. There were several times where she would become argumentative over small things which I would apologize for, and a few instances where dishes were broken. Despite this, I always apologized and believed to myself that this would all go away when we had our child and that my wife would return to being the happy, cheerful person I married.
When our daughter was born, however, I could tell something was different right away. She didn’t really look a lot like me, as she appeared mixed and I’m very pale, but I signed the birth certificate anyway as I felt I could trust my wife. When we finally returned home, things were not all happy as I’d hoped they’d be. My wife become angrier and resentful, as she felt I wasn’t doing enough to provide for her and our child. There were several times where she became physical, to the point where on more than one occasion she was screaming in my ear and would slap me or throw things if I tried to walk away. I promised her that I would be better and started taking on more hours at work and sometimes took the late shifts.
It was during this time that one of my wife’s old coworkers (we’ll call him J- 36M) offered to come help my wife with the baby sometimes while I was away at work. I was very grateful for the help, as I was usually dead tired from coming home late from work every night. Sometimes I would come home and J’s car would be there, and I would usually just come in and pass out on the couch since J and my wife were usually upstairs, presumably taking care of our baby. I was grateful to have such good friends around, and I would usually make them both breakfast in the morning before heading to work again.
However, I couldn’t get past the feeling when I realized one morning that our daughter resembled J closely. At first, my wife was furious when I asked for a paternity test, which I apologized profusely for ever even questioning her loyalty, but after a few more weeks I just had to go through with it, and I was devastated to finally learn that our beautiful daughter was not mine. My world was absolutely crushed, and when I tearfully confronted my wife and J about it, she was at first apologetic before J stood behind her and she began telling me all the ways that I fell short in our marriage- that I could never satisfy her needs, that I wasn’t charismatic enough and she needed to explore and be open and free with her sexuality and she felt trapped with me, etc. She also said it was still my responsibility to care for our daughter, since my name was on the birth certificate. I agreed with her, hugged and apologized to my wife, and decided there that we were gonna stick together and make it through this for our little girl, no matter who the father was.
We went through couples counseling together, and it was during this time that my wife truly made it known how unhappy she was before in our marriage, and why she felt the need to cheat on me and how she had been sleeping with J before and after her pregnancy. I’ll admit, it was hard to listen to, but I stood by and supported my wife while she fully explained the way she was feeling. I was a bit surprised then when our counselor told me that my wife was absolutely in the right, but i understood when she explained that the way my wife was feeling was valid, that I should’ve done more for her romantically, and she suggested that I may not be enough to satisfy my wife’s needs.
At our counselors behest, I gave J full rights to see our daughter and stay over sometimes to help co parent with my wife. It was during this time that my wife approached me one day and opened up to me by coming out as polyamorous. She stated she had been exploring these feelings for quite some time, and she felt she needed more partners in her life to fully find and discover herself. While this was difficult at first for me to grasp, I remembered what our counselor said and I fully accepted and supported my wife for who she was, and agreed to open our marriage.
For the first few weeks, I would accompany my wife to the bar and to clubs with her friends while she searched for a prospective partner. My wife would point out guys she felt the need for, which admittedly would make me somewhat uncomfortable and would usually stand somewhere to the side while her friends would get her drunk enough to go talk to guys. As I was usually her DD, my wife’s friends were usually heavily intoxicated as well and would not make me feel any better about the situation. One time, one of them even poured a drink on my head while I wasn’t looking and the rest of them laughed. If my wife did find a partner she liked, she would get in their car and leave with them to go back to our house, and I would usually just go over and stay the night on a friends couch or sleep in my car. There were several nights where I’d cry myself to sleep, but I told myself to stay strong in order to fix our marriage and keep our family together.
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So this happened only a few hours ago so forgive me if I don't compose this in the best manner because I'm still a bit shaken up by it!
We were playing D&D at my buddy J's house as is customary every Sunday. The session goes well. We have some random encounters on a desert road. As we're packing up to leave, we hear screaming from his wife. We hear "FIRE! FIRE!! THERE'S A FIRE!" We were in the basement and we quickly make our way upstairs to escape the house.
Through the back door at the top of the stairs, I see their shed fully engulfed in flames, and my buddy J rushing out the door with a fire extinguisher. Of course, it was all for naught as the flames had spread too much, but by the time I get out the front, put his dog in the car to keep it safe, and go to the back yard to retrieve him, he's got a garden hose trying in vain to put the flames out.
Several neighbors and I are screaming at him to get out of the yard until he gives up and the fire department arrives soon after. Several concerned neighbors who saw the fire before we ever noticed it had called the fire department.
Thankfully they arrived quickly, The home suffered minimal damage from the department pulling back the siding of the attic to make sure no fire was in his home (he has insurance so he'll get it repaired), and the neighbor's shed suffered heat damage as well and half of his yard is scorched. Everybody is well and nobody was harmed.
We're across the street from the smoldering remains of J's shed, then he turns to me and asks "So.... Same time next week?"

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Hi everyone.
I'm an immigrant from India who moved to Canada in 2018 (to Toronto, I know what a surprise).
Over 5 years, my wife and I have managed to work our way up to a decent HHI, own a townhouse, had our first child and became Canadian citizens. Canada has been great to us and despite the hard years of the pandemic we have had a good time here.
Recently though, with inflation, housing and Healthcare getting out of hand, I am seeing somewhat of a negative sentiment towards immigrants (at least on social media). There is a view that Canada is inviting too many immigrants, way more than it can sustain. Do you feel the same way, or do you think immigrants are necessary for Canada's future? Economic concerns are one thing, but j also wonder if there's concern that Canada's cultural makeup might get altered in the future considering so many immigrants are from India in the past few years.
I don't really have an opinion because I don't think it's fair to say immigration should be reduced after I benefited from the system myself. But I'm curious to learn the views of those who were born here, or have lived here their whole lives. I won't take offense to any views, so please be as honest as you'd like.
Thanks!

I am closing on property in few days. I received closing document from my lawyer. Here is one document which is bothering me. I am not concerned about survery. But other about items Item F - Is this an issue? I dont know if charge has been cleared ot not. Item G & H - Should I accept these title subject to these title or use issues? Is there any potential liability? Item I: I have right to use my property the way I want to. I dont have to live there. I should be able to rent as well. Item J: I am confused what it means... as a buyer I have the right make any modifications to it

I have appointment scheduled with my lawyer soon. But I would like to hear from you .. how should I proceed and deal with this? Your input is appreciated

ACKNOWLEDGMENT AND DIRECTION FROM PURCHASER
To: My lawyners name
RE: seller and property adddress
We, Buyer names , acknowledge being informed of all of the following matters pertaining to our purchase of the above property. We authorize and direct you to complete our purchase of the above property fully understanding and appreciating the importance of this information and its impact on our purchase.
E. We acknowledge that [my lawyer name] has not been provided with a survey for the above property and we have instructed [my lawyer name] not to obtain an up-to-date survey on our behalf.
F. We further acknowledge that [my lawyer name] has advised us that the following issues affect the title to or the use of the above property:
1. Instrument No. XXXXXX is a Charge/Mortgage of Land registered date from 2000 from Seller's wife in favour of XYZ MORTGAGE COMPANY securing the principal sum of $100,000. As per the Agreement of Purchase and Sale the seller is [Seller wife name] but the registered owners of the property are [Seller wife name] and [name of Seller's children]
G. We confirm that we are accepting title subject to these title or use issues.
H. We expressly waive any liability that may arise against you for the above-listed title or use issues and hereby instruct you to complete this transaction in any event.
I. We have advised you that the property will only be used for residential purposes and that we will be residing there.
J. Except as may be provided in a special endorsement (if any) to the title insurance policy, we are satisfied with the present use and state of the property and we are not purchasing the property on the basis that we can legally alter, modify or add to the property or any buildings or structures located on it. We do not require or desire any assurances or insurance coverage regarding the limitations or prohibitions on our ability to carry out changes to the property and the buildings and structures located on it. We may not be able to make any further changes to the property and any changes permitted will be governed by and subject to all applicable laws, as well as any restrictions registered on title. AND THIS SHALL BE your good and sufficient authority for so doing
Signature Buyer's Names

I am closing on property in few days. I received closing document from my lawyer. Here is one document which is bothering me. I am not concerned about survery. But other about items Item F - Is this an issue? I dont know if charge has been cleared ot not. Item G & H - Should I accept these title subject to these title or use issues? Is there any potential liability? Item I: I have right to use my property the way I want to. I dont have to live there. I should be able to rent as well. Item J: I am confused what it means... as a buyer I have the right make any modifications to it
I have appointment scheduled with my lawyer soon. But I would like to hear from you .. how should I proceed and deal with this? Your input is appreciated
ACKNOWLEDGMENT AND DIRECTION FROM PURCHASER
To: My lawyners name
RE: seller and property adddress
We, Buyer names , acknowledge being informed of all of the following matters pertaining to our purchase of the above property. We authorize and direct you to complete our purchase of the above property fully understanding and appreciating the importance of this information and its impact on our purchase.
E. We acknowledge that [my lawyer name] has not been provided with a survey for the above property and we have instructed [my lawyer name] not to obtain an up-to-date survey on our behalf.
F. We further acknowledge that [my lawyer name] has advised us that the following issues affect the title to or the use of the above property:
1. Instrument No. XXXXXX is a Charge/Mortgage of Land registered date from 2000 from Seller's wife in favour of XYZ MORTGAGE COMPANY securing the principal sum of $100,000. As per the Agreement of Purchase and Sale the seller is [Seller wife name] but the registered owners of the property are [Seller wife name] and [name of Seller's children]
G. We confirm that we are accepting title subject to these title or use issues.
H. We expressly waive any liability that may arise against you for the above-listed title or use issues and hereby instruct you to complete this transaction in any event.
I. We have advised you that the property will only be used for residential purposes and that we will be residing there.
J. Except as may be provided in a special endorsement (if any) to the title insurance policy, we are satisfied with the present use and state of the property and we are not purchasing the property on the basis that we can legally alter, modify or add to the property or any buildings or structures located on it. We do not require or desire any assurances or insurance coverage regarding the limitations or prohibitions on our ability to carry out changes to the property and the buildings and structures located on it. We may not be able to make any further changes to the property and any changes permitted will be governed by and subject to all applicable laws, as well as any restrictions registered on title. AND THIS SHALL BE your good and sufficient authority for so doing
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My wife is planning on pursuing German citizenship by section 15 as her grandmother is Jewish (now deceased) and left Wien in 1939.
When we got whatever documentation we could we found she had a Deutches reich reisepass with the 'J' designation.
The question is if it would be better to continue with the section 15 application or go with section 5?
Thanks for the thoughts....

Hey Guys,
My wife bought this plant, around Mother’s Day, and we can’t remember what it is. Can anyone out there help identify it?
Trying to read up on care and if we should be popping these flower heads off once they start wilting.
Thanks!
https://imgur.com/a/3zqS2vJ

This statement is not true at all but I feel that I am strongly affected by this messaging . I am married and with my marriage and my previous relationships I haven't gone through cheating or anything of the sort. But I feel that this messaging is all over media/social media. And it's half and half like some of the messaging is outright factual but some of it is also made up or twisted or overblown. I've even heard of women being paid to say they slept with such and such to make controversy. But with it being everywhere and The manosphere literally glamourizing it as if once you become a "high value man" cheating is good and you've made it, my anxiety is through the roof. I also find there's a lack of a female presence of infidelity in the media and I find that to also be annoying because it definitely happens, but for some reason you rarely ever see it. Like for instance this is a good recent example the Good morning Amercia hosts T.J. Holmes was fired for cheating on his wife with Amy Robach and the media made a big story of how he cheated on his wife with this woman but actually Amy Robach was also married but they didn't really make that the headline. Same with Nia's Long's ex, he was married BUT the woman he cheated with "Kathleen Nimmo Lynch" was also married but the big deal and the headline was that Nia Long's husband had an affair. So to me it just looks like women never make mistakes or never experience temptation only men, which again is false but it's everywhere, that's the messaging. I've actually considered going to therapy for this because it really effects me on a day to day basis. But it can't be only me because talking to peers i'll say this and their response is always similar too it they feel all men cheat too. I've even considered in the past trying to date women because maybe theyll be atleast "less infidelity". It's not just infidelity either the media in general gives a notion that men in general are just "bad" in all ways, and women are at least "white women" are only bad if they are "mistresses" but every other way women are good but men are bad. Is it just me?

I'm reading JCB's memoir "For Mother's Sake" which I have been enjoying very much, but I have a question. Jimmy talks about his last wife Husta who apparently was the love of his life, and mentions that she died in 1995. However, there is no mention of her being sick or any other details. What happened? This subject was probably just too painful for JCB to talk about - the only info I'm seeing on the Europe: 1995 page at jimmycarlblack.com, is "1995 Jack & Jim: JCB on tour with J&J when Husta dies". That must have been quite a blow. Anyway, if anyone has read any interviews with JCB that could fill in the blanks, that would be helpful. If it's private and JCB didn't want to discuss it, we can leave it alone. Much appreciated!

OK take two. This is very important I say this here since ppl don't know how to read. This is my now sitch. I have a good job making ok money and so does my husband. I will add the OG text becailse I deleted the OG since idk how to edit my posts I'm new to reddit.
Please keep in mind this all happend over a year ago and I want to just get it off my chest because things have DRASTICLY CHANGED. So here it goes.
So this will be a long one and I apologize for that. A year ago my step mom called Cps (child protective services) on me. And now my dad is gaslighting me to try to make me feel guilty and to have me to apologize for her doing it.
Here is a little back story to understand how this got so bad. I (f 27) met my fiance (m28) 5 years ago, we got pregnant 6 months after we met. It was not on purpose, and I admit we weren't careful because I was told at 19 I'd never be able to have kids due to some medical issues.
Now I moved in with my fiance after we had the baby (f), and I was a SAHM I worked Uber and Doordarsh and instacart while I was a SAHM. My fiance let's call him J, worked full time at a box store. We rent from Inlaws and it's a decent place just small. We had to fit two lives in one area and when H was a baby it was easy to keep up. Now she's three and we are teaching her to clean up after herself.
Fast forward to Dec 2021, J had quite his job and we were both driving for DD and Uber eats (this was not permanent since he was looking for a job right after he had quit his job for good reasons)not really making much at all, and my step mom and dad kept telling me that I needed to do better. I already was trying to do better and was secretly looking for a job. I say secretly because then I knew they would say something along the lines of good your finally listening to us. And I did not need that. So in Dec my step mom had a party. We had talked and agreed I'd let them take my daughter until the day of the party. When my dad came to get my daughter she was in the bath because she had woken up from her nap completely drenched in pee since her diaper leaked. I told him it'll be a couple minutes and then she would be ready, I went to check on her. When I came back he was in her room and I saw his phone was in photo mode. I saw red! I berated him about taking photos of my home and how disrespectful it was. He at first tried to deny it but when I pushed the issue he finally admitted he was doing it at my Step mom's orders.
I was so upset. I told him to delete the photos and he told me if he didn't bring them he would get into trouble with my step mom. I said if I ever catch you taking photos of my home secretly again we would have a different convo. I did end up letting him take H (daughter) because I didn't want her to not have fun. I had told myself I would just talk to my step mom at the party and tell her that is a boundary that was crossed. (Yes in hindsight not a smart move for me but I didn't think it'd had gotten as bad as it did)
The party came and as I was just enjoying it everyone in my family was really heavily telling me I needed to spend the night, and I kept saying no because I had planned to work the next day and knew I'd stay and never work. I finally cornered my step mom and asked her to talk with me. She was refusing originally but I was persistent. I told her how bad it looked she was taking pictures of my home and she said "if I wanted to call CPS on you I wouldn't need pictures " 🚩number 2. I then told her it was a boundary for me for her to secretly take photos and have me feel like a poor parent because my home was messy. Her response to this was "honestly, I'm tempted to take H until you get your shit together."
I was dumb founded! I took my daughter and left. For three weeks I did not talk to them. After a week I let H face time them but I was not in the video chat and I would not say anything if very minimal. During those three weeks I worked non stop on the delivery apps and didn't really get any rest I was working mon-sun from 6am to 7 pm just to get gas and food money. I DID HEAR BACK AND HAD SEVERAL JOB INTERVIEWS LINED UP BY THIS TIME. By week three my dad and step mom asked me to come up and I felt I could handle it finally and said I'd come that Sunday. Well that Saturday I had a babys shower and my mom was teaching me how to cook turkey. I still worked in the am and was a little late to the shower. Mom and I had a blast at cooking turkey and the next day I woke up late. H didn't and by the time I woke up we had an hour before her nap. And if I'm honest I still didn't want to see my family. So I laid her down and fell back asleep untill about 3pm. I woke up in a panic because I knew I was in deep shit with my step mom. I rushed to get my kid and our stuff into my car and try to get up there as alfast as I could ( the drive was an hr from my moms 2 1/2 from my home) and as I was pulling out of my.moms street I got a text
" don't bother coming up because I wanted to spend the whole day with H not a few hrs." But I went anyways and the whole time my step mom tried to ignore me. She kept saying how she wanted H to stay the weekend and just have some time alone with her. Side note me and my husband both agreed by then our daughter would not be going to spend the night by herself for a very long time because I had reason my step mom was going to try and take her or try ro stop me from taking her back.
I kept saying.how I'd love to join them so I could reconnect with the family. My step mom did not sound happy with my suggestion. Well around 9 I finally said we had to leave because I needed to drive the 2 and a half hours back home. We said our good byes and headed out About 20 minutes into the drive I called my mom to see if I could spend the night again becaise she was closest, because I was worried with how tired I was I'd get into an accident. She of course agreed and I stayed the night. I stay lied at her house talking how the rest of that day had gone and she was weirded out too. I got to my home about 5 pm and 30 minutes later my MIL come knocking at the basement door in a tizzy because there was a CPS worker at her door. My heart stopped. My husband and I went up greeted the worker and let her in. She said that she was there because there had been a complaint against us. I knew right away who. And asked her if it was my step mom. She said she couldn't disclose that because her job was to keep the peace. Well she came to see the home and inspect it. After she asked questions and looked around. She stated that other then a few things around the house needed to be fixed (easy fixes too) she didn't see a reason for the call. She said the complaint was there was cat pee smell everywhere and it was bad. She said she knew we had two cats but couldn't smell them... that was kinda prideful for me. She said to clean the home and fix the few things physically. she would came back for a follow up in two weeks (it was early 3 months by the time she came back) she told me that she felt that she'd be able to close our case relatively easy. We bid her goodbye. And the first call was to my mom screaming and crying on how I didn't have a dad and that my step monster had really overstepped. I told her everything she was seething! So was my husband and MIL. I was in Shock and tears, I blocked my SM and called my dad crying and upset on what he just let happen and I got nothing back. Then I told my mom he didn't puck up she called him a cowered. She then took a call to him and cussed him out. I blocked him then unblocked him. And it wasn't until three days later he called me back i didnt answer. He said he didn't know I had called and that he would try my mom. When I heard that on the voice mail I took a little pleasure because he did not know what he was in for. J had to hold me because I had started to shake after hearing my dad's voice. I called my mom told her he would call and to call me when she was done. She did told me she cussed him out and told him how he has abandoned me yet again and how much of a shifty father he was to not protect me or to warn me what was transpireing from his wife. He defended himself and said he had no knowledge my mom didn't let him get away with that. And he admitted to knowing somthing but sisnt think she would go through with it.
I ignored his calls for two weeks. He called everyday. Which is sad to say he never did that before he would call maybe every other week. Then I got a message from my SM. " A it's obvious you don't see me as a mother but if you don't let your dad see H I will blast you on FB and put all the evidence out there. Becaise obviously I'm not your mother it hurts your dad that you rnt talking to him. I am a grown women who makes her own decisions and i called csp with out your fathers knowlage. (She mentions that obviously I don't see her as a mom again even though prior I did call her mom.)" I screen shotted the message and sent it to my dad and said this has to stop I will talk when I'm ready. About a week later I finally picked up my dad's call and I had him on speaker. I told him I felt I had no father and how he abandoned me. How he didn't tell me what was happening. And so much more.
But after that I started to forgive him because being mad is more work. Plus he isn't soly responsible. Now I see home on and off. But recently he has been gaslighting me when he brings the whole situation up. Saying things like
"It's hard on me because I want my whole family back", and "how SM didn't really call out of spite but to get you to do what she wanted. I had told him through the first meet up that I had a job lined up and had worked hard on the house. (At this point the house was immaculate its amazing what organization can do. Ps somthing i had been working on doing before all this happed!) During the first few days I couldn't work while we were cleaning because we were cleaning all day everyday. For two weeks I couldn't go work alone the apps because I was waiting for the cps worker to show up. J had started to work the apps and doing interviews during that time as well. my mom helped us with getting strage and food during the time I couldn't work. BTW I knew stroage is what we needed all along to our mess, and have been telling them all that. He praised me for the job and cleaning and I told him I didn't need his validation and I didn't get the job because of cps I had started looking before this all transpired. He asked why I didn't say anything because it would have had SM calm down and probably not call CPS. (Highly doubt it) I told him because it's my life and I'm going to live it the way I see fit not him and definitely not my SM.
But anyway like I said now he just gas lights me to day I have to make the first move because i made a TT when I was mad calling her a narcissistic abuser and she saw it and hurt her feelings and how she was not afraid she had hurt all of us.... 🙄. So am I the asshole for the TT and should I apologize for everything and speak first or what should I do now? I will say I wrote a note to her that I haven't sent expressing my feelings and what I needed to say. Thank you for any advice plus for reading this long story! Also sorry for bad Grammer and bad spelling lol. The messiness of the house consisted of laundry in baskets because I didn't have a place for towels and bedding and loads of books and other things I use on a regular with no storage. It's now organized and put away thanks to my amazing mom who helped me through this time of my life.
Now this is where I give what life looks like now.
The house is still a little messy but that's just home life with a toddler. The dishes are still done and laundry put away but now her toys are EVERYWHERE she finished her first year of PreK (it's for her speech therapy) and my fiancé and I are bis drivers and make ok money. It's still our first year of it but hey!
I worked at HD for a year and for several months of that year I worked both bus and HD working in till 5 at bus and from 530 to 10 pm. I quite HD to focuse on bus. No the catalyst for the job was NOT my sms doing and I don't care what she thinks
Yes I still have a relationship with my dad but he is at arms length at all times. Yes I left a lot out originally and now I see why that is bad.
I want to thank all the commenter before who wasn't tearing me down and shaming me for my PAST and trying to give me good vibes and helpful tips! I don't know how to delete comments I'm new to reddit. Please do not come for me for my PAST issues I'm not that pathetic person anymore. I have refound my original self and going strong and hard to figure out all the possibilities I can do to better my family every day.