Hello there! I'm a 28y Indian living in Finland, and I'm looking to relearn how to live in society. In the past 5 years I've lost touch with or lost (to COVID or to marriage) most of my friends. From texting regularly, I've now become a person who checks my messages twice a week. Looking to change that and rebuild a social life.
A bit about me now. I have a whole bunch of hobbies(baking, clay modeling, painting, sewing, carpentery) which I ignore to make new ones(flower pressing, simulation building) . I'm a foodie (and it shows) and I also enjoy the outdoors. I do have kinda bad knees but I love hiking and walking around/exploring. I love watching anime and tv shows in general. I prefer to watch when an entire season has aired and then I finish it in one sitting. I've kind of forgotten humowitty banter and this r4r is also so I can get back into the groove of interaction with people.
What I'm looking for. Well, I haven't dated in quite a few years so even that's a bit rusty but I want to get back into that as well. I'm not very picky about gender but would prefer to interact with someone kind-hearted but with a solid spine. Whether it's grabbing a coffee, going on a hike, having an anime marathon or just hanging out outdoors while the sunshine lasts, I'm down.
I'm pretty sure I come off as boring (it's coz I am) but I do believe(hope) it's like a muscle that can be reworked into being interesting.

This feels like a dumb question because I think I know the answer, but I'm having a hard time deciding what to do.
 
I've spent a bit more than typical over this past month and have racked up a small credit card debt of about $3000 that I'd like to pay off in the next week or so. I have a few different investments that I could pull from, but not sure which one to touch.
 
Credit Card Debt: $3000 (20% interest)
VTSAX: $7,500 (2.5% loss to sell now)
Apple Stock: $3,000 (250% gain so tax considerations to think about. Also this stock has historically done well)
ESPP: $80,000 (100% gain on the portion I would sell, so again tax considerations. I know I should probably diversify this, but it's done historically well. This seems like the obvious answer to me.)
 
Please help me decide. I usually pay credit cards off every month but budgeting went wrong this month.

Hi :) I am not entirely sure if I am doing this correctly because I have never used reddit before. I have written a little under half of an adult fantasy novel, and I am looking for feedback. I will take any and all feedback, but I am mostly looking for unbiased parties to tell me if I have an potential at all with this story/as a writer. Honestly I am mainly looking for peers/friends. I am happy to read your work in return (though I am mostly only familiar with fiction/fantasy work)! If you are interested, comment below or chat me (IDK how that works but I shall figure it out hehe).
Content warnings: So far the story is not spicy but I do intend to take it there. I am 22 and the characters are around 20 so I am looking for older readers, not minors. I wouldn't be comfortable discussing that sort of things with younger readers though you are still ofc welcome to read it! There is very minor violence but nothing too grim. There is also some LGBTQ+ rep so bigots stay away!
Disclaimer the first chapter is only one of the main characters, but I do have to say, once they meet there is some wonderful witty banter so I swear it gets more intriguing.
First chapter:
Chapter 1: Bearnas The innate driving force of human nature is vengeance. This was a certitude I had come to realize from a young age, and it was a concept I relied on as I got older. Vengeance was the primary motivator for my people. It was our currency. The way we managed to survive. I didn’t stop to consider the morality of this outlook. I didn’t like to contemplate the state of my existence. Found that to be a waste of time. I focused on the here-and-now. The mutable present. It was simply the way the world was, so I had to deal with it like a man should. This was an ideal my father had instilled in me since the time of my birth. I was the son of a victorious warrior. Osgar Nieva was a well-respected war lieutenant during the Great Slaughtering. He never let me forget that I had a legacy to uphold. I knew my father hated me. I figured his disappointment began from the moment I received my name. In Dolag, tradition dictates that the father names their son. Names were believed to be prophetic. Osgar had a strong name-befitting of a warrior. His name meant “divine spear.” My grandfather claimed he could sense that Osgar would be a brave warrior from the moment he was born. So he was prophesied to be graced by the luck of God in battles. Typically, women were only allowed to name the baby if it was a girl. I was the exception. The process of my birth brought my Mother to her deathbed. The doctor was certain that she wouldn’t recover. As she lovingly admired the newborn baby boy in her arms, her attention was drawn by a bird pecking gently on the window. Tears streamed out of her eyes as it took off soundlessly into the winter dawn. “Wren.” She’d muttered softly, still gazing peacefully out the window. The room of family members and midwives stood in puzzled silence. The world seemed to pause in wait for her next words. She turned her head back to meet Osgar’s eyes. “He shall be named Wren. He will be gentle. Beautiful. Free.” She reached down to caress her baby’s face. “And he will be loved.” Despite my Father’s protests, the council voted to accept the name. The wishes of the dying outweighed naming traditions. Only my Mother never died. Doctors considered her survival a miracle. She returned back to full health only a few months later. She and I have paid for her decision every day since. Osgar refused to call me Wren. Anyone who referred to me as such, other than my Mother, was punished accordingly. To the rest of the world, I became known as Bearnas Nieva. Bearnas was the name Osgar would have chosen for his son if he had been given the opportunity. Bearnas. Meaning bringer of victory. My father did everything in his power to ensure that I would fulfill this destiny, whether it was the result of prophetic nomenclature or resolute determination. The story of my name was all I could think about as I prepared for my sendoff. I was tightening my last bootstring when a small hand clapped me on the back with a force intended to knock me off balance. “The famed Bear Nieva preparing for his grand expedition. What luck I must possess to witness you in all your glory.” I was grateful for El’s arrival, despite the copious amount of sarcasm she brought with her. My sister's presence was probably the only thing that could pull me out of my thoughts right now. “Using mockery as a mechanism to cover up your total despair about my departure, I assume.” I tried to keep my tone light, but in truth it was myself I was worried about. El held the chief role in keeping me sane throughout the later part of my life. She was my only tether to my true self. I worried about how I would stay grounded on my Hunt without her there to tease my worries away. El flopped on my bed with feigned anguish. “Yes, whatever will I do without my idiot older brother around to hog all the scrambled eggs at breakfast. Oh, how I will miss the putrid scent you plague the house with after training all day. Your constant nagging about my lack of tidiness will be missed most ardently.” I swatted her gently with my leather gloves. “Speaking of, get your disgusting outdoor shoes out of my clean bed immediately.” I shooed her out of my room, and chased her towards the door, nearly colliding with my father as a result. “This isn’t befitting behavior for a man about to begin his First Hunt” Osgar admonished. “Elowen, go to the kitchen and help your Mother tidy up before we head to town.” El skirted around our father into the hallway. Safely out of his eyeline, she directed one last mocking tongue in my direction before slinking away. “Are you ready to go?” He raked his disapproving gaze over my gear, searching for any flaw he could call attention to. “Yes, sir.” I responded. I did feel ready. This was the moment I had been preparing for my whole life. My body was honed by years of workouts and my skills were unquestioned. I had graduated top of my class in my training group. I was certainly ready to leave the house, as I wanted nothing more than independence. Besides my Mother and sister, I had nothing keeping me here. Not anymore. So I grabbed my bag and walked out the door. When my family was all ready, we began the walk to the edge of town where the sendoff was taking place. There we would eat, drink, dance and say our goodbyes. I spent my time standing on the outskirts of the group, hoping my stern face would signal everyone to leave me alone. I didn’t have any desire to get my ego fluffed by a bunch of people who just wanted to get in the good graces of my Father. I just wanted to leave. The one person I actually wished had come to bid me farewell had decided not to show up, not that I could blame him. Eleven other men would be sent off at the same time as me. We were all being sent in different directions, but we were all given the same instruction: go kill a witch. That is exactly what I intended to do. Success rates had been much lower over the past few years. After the Great Slaughter fifty years prior, there were only so many witches left to kill. In fact a witch hadn’t been successfully hunted in around 4 years. Most hunters came back many months after their departure unable to track any down. The people of Dolag figured the warriors of the Great Slaughter had ushered the witches into near extinction. The only evidence we had that they weren’t entirely eradicated were the cases of the men who never returned. Every once in a while, there was a man who was assumed to have met his demise at the hands of one of the remaining witches. So the Hunts continued on. After a few hours of festivities, it was time for us to set off. I was ready to say my goodbyes. I knelt down so El could wrap her arms around my neck. Her hot tears dampened the fabric covering my shoulders. “Promise me you will come back,” she said. I squeezed her a little tighter. “Don’t worry, you’ll get a few months of the stench free, scrambled-egg-filled, only-child experience and then I will be right back to boss you around.” El released me from her grip in order to look me in the eyes. “I’m not kidding around Bear.” Her piercing gaze mirrored the intensity of her voice. “Promise me.” Even though I knew it wasn’t something I could realistically guarantee, I hugged her once more and said “I promise, Elly.” After a moment, I stood up and ruffled my little sister’s hair. Then I turned to my Mother, who watched with watery eyes. The hair that had escaped from her tight bun was wisping around her face in the gentle breeze. The sun shining behind her produced an effect reminiscent of a halo. She embraced me with a level of care only a Mother could deliver. “I love you, Wren. You will always be my darling songbird,” she whispered into my ear. I released myself from the hug, and smiled one last time at my adoring Mother. I nodded once before forcing myself to turn to my Father. “Don’t disappoint me, son.” He stuck out his calloused hand and I shook it begrudgingly. It felt like cold leather in my grip. That was it. That was my final farewell from my Father. ‘Don’t disappoint’. No good luck, no I love you, nothing of the sort. Only a damn handshake. I knew I shouldn’t have expected anything different, but it still put me in a sour mood. What a great start to my expedition. I looked one last time at my sister and Mother in an effort to preserve some positive thoughts about my home. When I cemented this image in my mind, I omitted the withering glare of my Father beside them. I spun around and started down the path towards Deirtalamh. I marched towards witch country without so much as a glance over my shoulder. I was days into my trek when I came across the cabin. Being the son of Osgar Nieva gave me claim to the most promising Hunt. My journey was actually mapped to this location, whereas the rest of my group had to resort to aimless meandering. I heard the gentle melody of a person humming drifting out from within the house. How odd. My superiors swore it was a witch that lived here. A hunter from a few years prior reported catching a glimpse of a cabin before he was suddenly lost in the woods. Who could be humming so pleasantly within this peaceful home so deep into witch territory? I maneuvered my head to look through the open window and saw the source of the cheerful noise. She appeared like the sun incarnate. Her dark skin contrasted beautifully against the pale yellow of her clothes. Her hair curled unbound around her face. She stirred a pot of stew as she swayed softly to her own music, the fabric of her dress swishing mesmerizingly around her thighs. Beautiful suddenly seemed like an insufficient word to describe someone of her standing. I knew she was not the witch I had come to hunt. Of course I was no fool, I was aware that witches could glamor themselves to be beautiful. But their false beauty was always like that of a succubus, unnatural and deadly. No witch would have been able to conjure up the effortless and soft beauty of the woman in front of me. I was sure of it. Never mind the fact that if she were a witch, I would most certainly be dead. She would have sensed me coming from the moment I stepped foot onto her land, and she would have been ready to strike. If I had let myself get distracted for this long in the presence of a witch, I would have paid for my mistake in blood. I wondered how she had come to live in Deirtalamh. I’d heard tales of villagers who’d tried their luck here out of desperation, choosing to brave the dangers of witch territory rather than living in the impoverished slums of Dolag. I’d also heard of extreme cases where dangerous criminals were exiled here. This woman looked neither criminal in nature nor desperate to survive. She looked content. Regardless, I must get her to safety. I walked briskly over to the door and entered the cabin.

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• Tactile Turn bolt action copper short pen - writes great. has a little bit of patina forming around the tip. This pen got me back into semi-regular journaling, and I've bought a few different pens that I prefer now.
• GEC 892121S Fruit Knife with stabilized antique chestnut wood - the last person who owned this sharpened it and roughed the blade a little bit. The factory drilled an extra hole in the scale and filled it with epoxy, then marked the tang with an S. Smooth, no stop action with a light pull.
• Mercator Black Cat stainless steel - great condition, edge is sharp and handle doesnt have any signs of wear
• Laguoile ebony - beautiful spine with an extremely thin and sharp edge. Has a 3/4 stop and a heavy pull.
• Boker Stockman medium with brown jigged bone - used for small whittling projects and sharpened for that job. the clip point does a great job at shaping while the spey blade does a great job at detailed work. the sheepsfoot is more of the every-day uses.
• Swiss Army Knife Spartan 100 Year Anniversary - saw it at an antique store and had to have it. I bought some accessories that will also come with it: a flint to replace the toothpick (original toothpick included) and a mini corkscrew tool set. Admired it for a while, now it's time to move on.
• Rough Ryder doctor's knife with pearl and malachite scales - pretty knife with a nice historical design. smooth walk and talk with a light pull.
• GEC 818222 yellow rose coon skinner - my first GEC and it has a nice subtle blue sheen on the secondary blade from cutting apples. It really did show me why GEC is so well regarded in the slipjoint community. Smooth, light pull with a soft 3/4 stop.
• Rough Ryder fish knife with copper and black bone - another pretty knife with a functional but elegant design. The hook sharpener fell off but was gorilla glued back into place. Shows a little bit of wear on the copper from being in my pocket while out fishing, but I've never used it on a fish. Has a light pull and the blade has a soft half stop.
• Blue smoke hank - to add to your knife dumps. Has a microfiber stitched to the back for glasses or whatnot.

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Hello Everyone, I have had an Idea to make a discord server about roleplaying Canada, its government, the military as well as normal life. I am going to need a very large amount of support and dedication to help get it on its feet as well as up and running but please if you are interested, DM me through Reddit and I can give you my Discord. As I said, I will need a huge amount of support on this. But anybody interested early on will be asked about what and where they will want to start to help build the discord server on, from the Navy, Army or even the coast guard in the military, to politics and running for an election to be the prime minister! To even running ordinary police in the roleplay city, or even creating and forming your very own new political party. This is your chance to have power and make big decisions or join the military and serve our country, the choice is yours. Anybody interested early on will be receiving the highest rank/job in their specific area of focus. This will take a while to get up and running but this is how we can start from something small and make it something big! Let's give everyone a chance to rise up to do their dream job in this roleplay that has a huge opportunity. The leaders/first to join will be given powers to create their specific branch of specification, whether it be in the military or in ordinary life like a hospital- You are responsible for creating and finishing up your branch/area of focus. If/when this is up and running on its feet, we will organize and start elections. Before this opens to everyone to join the builders and creators that are interested will finish up then we will open our doors, the police forces and armed forces will recruit, and politicians will be able to join parties and create new ones. Let's make this a dream come true and allow others to rise to power!
My Timezone is GMT+8
Triumph Canada!

This is mostly a vent. Supportive comments needed, advice is appreciated.
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These days I'm so dismayed at my situation and find myself wondering 'What the fuck happened?'
I came from a well-off middle class family. I'm now 22 and struggling with housing and work. I had to start living on my own a couple of months ago and now have no choice but to move somewhere else or flatshare in order to survive, and even that is proving difficult. I have good qualifications but can never keep a job for more than a few months because I'm on the Autism Spectrum. I'm having top surgery in a few weeks (I'm trans), and while I have friends to help me recover I have no family to keep a closer watch on me.
Future is looking a bit bleak.
So how the fuck did I end up here and where did things go so wrong....? That's what I find myself asking.
My mom was always an abusive narcissist and never wanted me in the first place. That's where it all started. Dad and rest of family were passive enablers, plus my autistic traits.......All that did not mix well, for me or my brother. Childhood wasn't very good. From 12/13 I developed clinical (and I mean Clinical with a capital C) depression/anxiety and also gender dysphoria, and as I mentioned I'm on the spectrum as well. I did great in school but in literally everything else I was abysmal and thought constantly about suicide etc. Despite attempts to get help and teachers urging my parents to get me help they ignored all of it completely. At 14 my brother began retaliating violently against my mother's abuse, and over the next few years gave my parents Hell by assaulting them and causing thousands in property damage.
I kept my trans feelings at bay until I got my degree, after which I started dressing and acting like my true self. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. After months of further abuse by my mother, my grandmother let me stay with her. But eventually even my grandmother's actions took a toll on my mental health and I had to live on my own. Then recently I had to block contact with most of my family because of their anger and intolerance over my upcoming surgery.
I'm in contact with social workers to try and get some government help. I constantly feel like I'm an imposter or lazy, that I don't deserve any government help or resources at all. Technically I haven't consumed any government resources yet, it's just that my case has been followed for a long time now.
I feel so bad that I will likely have to make use of government services in my life due to my situation. And seeing other families stick up for each other and help each other when in need makes me feel bitter and upset.

• I know one young man who was born with a few medical complications and is half-blind and has trouble with depression, jobs and school. And his family really care for him. In contrast to me (ok I'm not half-blind), where any legit medical problems that were affecting my day-to-day living were just blamed on me or attributed to a weak mental state.
• I know some trans people and plenty of lgbt people who are accepted by their parents. And with trans issues especially, leaving dysphoria unchecked can really cripple us. In the meantime, my family didn't even accept me wearing the clothes that I felt comfortable in.
• The girl I'm dating is autistic and a lesbian and always had the full support of her family and a government program for her executive functioning problems. She was fully accepted and helped for her autism while my parents attempted to hide my diagnoses and pretend it never happened and continued treating me in a way that's not even acceptable for neurotypical kids.
• My brother is a violent, debatably dangerous shithead and he still gets to live with my parents rent-free.
• Then again, I do know someone with an IQ deficiency who is dependent on the government to live and looks to have been entirely abandoned by his family.

I don't want to get to a point where I would need government housing, but my entire family literally won't accept me living with them. One of my grandmother's has a sizeable house, but is so disgusted by my transness that she can't even look at me and constantly insults me. My other grandmother has a large house but constantly cries and argues over my transness. My aunts and uncles value their private space too much to take me in. I can't go back to my parents because my mother is abusive, does shit like throw away my clothes and stuff and my dad won't stop her.
I grew up in financial security, in a well-off middle class family. I had a computer at 6 years old, we had 3 TVs and my dad tried to put an AC in practically every room in the house, my dad would spend 400$ on just a casual food trip and 'treat' us at restaurants. As kids my grandparents would take us lots of places and treat us, and we'd all go on holiday every 2 years. And all of that never made me happy, and I'd have happily traded all of those material items for a loving family. Scratch that: even just one person who would have acted like a proper parent to me.

For some context, my ex and I have been in this hot and cold stage since November last year after he broke up with me. I was devastated. After a couple of weeks I finally realized why he was hot and cold and it was just because he wanted me in his back pocket for when things were convenient for him. Once I left him alone he came running back. We ended up getting back together the end of December. All went well up until beginning of April when he decided to end things with me once again. I immediately went into no contact. We bumped into each other a couple of times but ultimately after a month of being apart he did something that was just the final straw. I blocked him on snap, Insta, everything except for text. After almost 3 weeks of being blocked he finally sent me a text. We ended up talking on the phone the next day and he convinced me to unblock him. I did so and everything was honestly civil and chill. But the last couple of days I just was in a funk and I knew it stemmed from speaking to him casually for the last 2 weeks. As much as I didn’t want to face reality, I had to be honest with him and myself and just cut contact again. I don’t think I’m fully healed from all of this. And in order to I need to just be left alone. He kept apologizing for everything and said he understands why I have to block him again but I guess a little part of me wishes this will be an eye opener for him. Just maybe he’ll want to figure it out with me. He sat on the phone last night telling me that he would want to try again someday but not until he’s ready and I feel the same way. But the problem is as long as I have feelings for him subconsciously I’ll always be committed to him and I just don’t think that’s fair. I guess I’m just coming on here to get reassurance that I’m doing the right thing. I’ve tried in the past to make it work and expressed how I wanted it and I’ve always been rejected. I hope this helps me in the long run.

Does anybody still not see that offense is created by defense in the NHL .... If you look at 2019 blues we had Pete bo edmundson colt 44 and probably wat people don't say enough about was hot carl. If I watch the blues exiting there d zone currently u see forwards as low as the dots skating the pucks either backwards or even fowards. 2019 blues d men were making one good pass behind net to other dman or keeping and then skating puck out themselves with all 3 fowards outside the zone... One good pass and we gone... The importance of this ability is wat is wrong with current team. They are not good at it... Pete was mistake #1, he was the best at it, hot Carl probably the second... Hot Carl never had stats but man evrytime he had that puck skating out the zone one good pass right on the money. Boumeester on the money, even edmundson. We fucked up, parakyo is not a number 1... He has talent in skating size but he's just not a leader and without that boumeester to lean on he's absolutely lost on d fence clear example was last night against islanders..like 4 of the 5 goals they scored were these dinky puck deflections around the net. On 2nd or 3rd parayko on 2-1s everytime will fall to the ice stretch out that body try to stop the pass.. everytime that's his one move... Well guess what players are just waiting him out and he either keeps on sliding away or even better takes out our goalie... Lucky we got him for cheap .. you know why we did because he new without Pete Bo and Carl he didn't have wat it takes plain and simple... Know one is that nice and he took the job security in term and now you can see why... He's an excellent compliment to a strong 2nf line leader ... I don't believe him to be a first line damn even.... He's never gonna put up offense he's never had a slapshot that can even hit the net... He will not be able to develope later like a perron shot because size guys don't work like that.... I leave it there for a start but it ain't the blues offense .. kyrou put up great numbers last year he's fast and we didn't pay him to play d so shut the f up about this two way player game it's not Jordan ok... Next article will be me sticking up for bing ding dong who made some incredible saves last night as well... And me ripping nick leddy Torrey krug... Binnington all we ever wanted from him was that couple big time saves to bail us out but our shut down d was the center piece that drove everything in 2019... Wake up all u idiots who can t see the difference watch next game watch the breakout it all starts there .

My husband and I have been married for 4 years and it has been bumpy, but also so wonderful. A year and a half ago, my husband was laid off from his job and spent a whole year literally doing nothing. I kept telling him that he should consider applying or updating his resume in case it takes awhile to find a job..
Well fast forward, in the last 6 months, he’s been applying/interviewing and no one is giving him an offer so it’s been beyond stressful. I have been financially supporting us for the last year, but somehow, I always have to understand HIM when he’s stressed out or in a bad mood. When we do get into bad arguments, he says the lowest of the low things, then apologizes and we move on. He’ll say things like “If I didn’t marry you, I would’ve gotten my Masters Degree.” It absolutely crushes me when he says things like that to me because not once have I ever said that to him. Not one time.
I have been dying to go on vacation because again, I’ve been financially supporting us, and don’t take any days off. I will say, I do have a habit of repeating myself about how I really want to go on a vacation and he promised me a year ago that we would go to Switzerland to make up for what he did. Well clearly, that’s not going to happen, but he somehow gets angry at ME when I bring it up.. which I understand because he’s stressed, but HE put himself in this situation.
Last night, we had another argument like this and he said “I wouldn’t be in this situation if I didn’t marry you.” And that was it and it completely killed me. I am in so much debt and making every payment that we have and that’s what he says to me because I am dying for a vacation?? Because I need a break?.. I’m actually contemplating separating from him because I am beyond miserable. Like I said, we have good days, but him not working for a year and a half completely killed us. I don’t know what to do..

Hi guys, I would like to ask if maybe you have any advice or input on the following issue. I've already consulted two doctors about it and got no real answer, which is kinda frustrating :(
On T for 7 years now, 2-3 months after starting finasteride started experiencing cramping and spotting, general PMS symptoms every once in a while, feeling miserable etc. Blood tests results came back, the comment from the GP: "T levels look good, I see no reason why you're feeling this way, case closed".
Couple months later my gyno said that the ovaries seem too active and there is some blood visible (general exam as well as an ultrasound done). Couldn't say much about the hormones levels, though. No real advice here, other than to "observe" the situation. I don't want to observe anything, I want to solve the problem. Although I'm terribly scared of all medical procedures, I'm starting to consider a hysterectomy, including the removal of ovaries.
My questions, have any of you been in this situation? Is hysterectomy a reasonable idea for me?
And most important, how does 98,3 pg/ml estradiol (E2) sound for a trans guy? Way too much or just okay? I have no idea.
Thanks!!

I used a training app called Gipis years ago and it helped me move from running 5ks to running my first half marathon. App disappeared from app stores a few years back, anyone know if it was bought by another app or changed its name? I really liked how Gipis wouldn't just create a custom plan, but it would also give you live feedback as you ran in your headphones, so you could speed up or slow down to keep pace with the training. It would also automatically up future training based on how well you maintained pace that day.

I am in the process of post-divorce mortgage insanity. I currently own a home/mortgage in Texas in both of our names (his mortgage is in both of our names as well) and will receive close to $1m in various investments. I'm moving back to Georgia where my family lives. This is not a great time to buy a house, I know, but I feel both my daughters and I would benefit from the stability of not having to move again. Further, my family will be able to help with home repairs and whatnot.
While trying to research lenders, loans, asset depletion options, etc. I've gotten overwhelmed and would love more real-world info rather than just numbers/articles/ads. I saw the New American Funding Cash loan and Knock.com home swap thing. And while these options seem convenient, I'm worried they are not worth it in the long run due to fees? I will receive child support, but it will take me some time to figure out work as I was managing my ex-husband's companies and don't have the qualifications to continue in the finance/management field unless/until I get additional schooling/certifications. Does anyone have good recommendations or info or good ideas for how to go about this? Is the NAF Cash or Knock.com a bad idea? Is renting a much better idea? I appreciate anything. The overwhelm is real.

Hey everyone, new to this type of community forum commenting.
The reason my wife and I started going to therapy is because we are effective verbal communicators and have a great time talking to teach other, but my wife very much struggles to communicate compliments, flirtatious feelings, or lovable thoughts. She finds it difficult to want to be “in the mood” physically and has a tendency to lock me out of physical contact for a week or 2 at a time when she knows I have always been a physical lover. She used to be the same but after years has drifted away from showing physical or verbal love for me. This has been a point of contention for years and we finally decided to do something about it.
We started attending couples therapy for our marriage 3 weeks ago. We have had 3 sessions so far and have a 4th planned next week. The therapist has just said a few things that has made both of our eyebrows raise and even my wife is starting to think that this specific therapist may have some type of issue with me personally. She is an older lady who served in the Air Force.
Our first session she asked how we worked through arguments and communicated on a day to day. I’m extremely easy going, well articulated, speak from the heart, I speak honestly, but a soft kind of honest, not brutally honest. I incorporate positive communication skills I learn through various media and relationships coaching advice I come across. My wife says exactly what she feels she needs to say and doesn’t go into depth when talking about our relationship. She can carry a conversation for hours about the various feminine, economic, cultural, and societal issues, but simply asking what I mean to her is left with blank states and blinks. After telling my therapist this information, she described and I quote, “The pussification of man”. Saying that I needed to be more masculine. I described that not only do I compliment my wife in a variety of ways, but crush any insecurities she feels with overwhelming support. I am constantly trying to touch my wife in sexual and non sexual ways. I feel like I’m trying to do everything right, but the therapist said that I had too much feminine energy simply from hearing the behaviors I just described. She didn’t go into detail on how to be masculine, just that I was too feminine. She had very little to say to my wife the whole session, and made it sound like I wasn’t doing enough when my wife will tell anyone that I put in more effort than her.
Our second session we got on the topic of how my wife’s work was incredibly demanding, how she had to deal with coworkers who would verbally catcall or say things when she would bend over to pick stuff up (she’s in the army so guys are feral). My wife explained how she hates dealing with men like that, so me being soft is a feature, not a bug. The therapist then began talking about how society has everything backwards and will cheer for feminine men and masculine women, but that it “doesn’t work” in a marriage. She said that traditional gender roles give us guidance on who should be leading and initiating.
The 3rd session we talked about an incident that happened last weekend. My wife tends to drink a lot at parties and gets very touchy feely. We have had conversations about it repeatedly and I have told her it’s not a good look for a married woman to be touching and play fighting all over men. We had a close friend at the house and she was drinking and swimming with him. I have known this guy for years. He is my best friends soon to be brother in law, and my wife’s best friends brother. I went upstairs because as usual my wife was too touchy and I was frankly sick of having to ask her to chill. My bother was out there with them too, but went to bed because he was too drunk. The guy my wife was swimming with got black out drunk and assaulted her. He held her against a wall and stuck his tongue in her mouth without consent. She waited 2 days to tell me, but we dealt with it quick. We told our therapist about everything that happened, how we had conversations for years about boundaries before this and how I had already been asking her to keep distance at parties, and the first thing my therapist said was “why did you ever think it was okay to leave your wife alone with another man?”. Didn’t talk about my wife taking 15+ shots every party, being all over other men when I asked her not to, but kept questioning my actions. The entire session she focused on what I needed to do from now on and how communicating to her how uncomfortable it made me was the “single persons” way to approach the situation instead of the “married way”. She also told my wife what the guy did to her “wasn’t an assault” because our therapist had dealt with being raped and an unwanted kiss wasn’t really an assault if we just stopped viewing it as an assault.
After the session my wife said she was surprised because it seems like our therapist really has it out for me. I don’t over drink, I don’t flirt with women at parties or touch them, I communicate and do as many nice things for my wife as I can, but the therapist makes me out to be the issue. My wife wanted ways to deal with stress and be a better wife, but this lady is bent on taking shots at me. Are we wasting our money and should go elsewhere or is it just me that is the problem and I refuse to understand? Neither of us are getting much out of this. Small nuggets of advice, but she really hates my personality or something.

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Hi this is a repost from Vancouver but got taken down due to relevancy. I live in BC
On may 23 I(M23) got poked by a needle at my workplace (vet clinic) in my right leg just above the knee to the right slightly. To preface, our clinic is a bit small so I often have to pass behind people and sometimes touch shoulders with them. As I needed to pass behind my doctor to reach the medication cabinet, I say “excuse me doctor” however he is unresponsive as he is looking at the computer. I squeeze behind him saying sorry and I felt the sharp poke and immediately look down and see a needle. To explain, he held the needle in his hand with arms by his side like how a normal person would stand. However he held the needle, uncapped, with the sharp point pointing to behind him.
I know it’s a used needle that was used to conduct vaccination. I know this because I observed the doctor vaccinate an outdoor cat that we just performed a neuter on however I thought it was disposed of or at least capped. NOT lingering around his hand for 5 minutes with the sharp point uncapped. Doctor noticed the poke. I know this because when it happened, he immediately looked back and then threw the needle away immediately and pretended nothing happened. As I am desperate for money, I continued to work my shifts there after the date of injury all while posting my resume to different job posts.
I have submitted a worksafebc report already and I have a blood work appt this week.
Today, he confronted me abt the worksafebc report and tried to shift the blame on me, stating that I don’t do the things he tells me to do like closing a door, even went as far as asking “how come you don’t complain about the scratches from cats or dog bites?”. I replied those things are incomparable as one is acting on instinct/nature while you are a trained, and licensed professional who has been in the industry for a long time and should understand safety precautions such ad immediately disposing of a used syringe or capping it at least, NOT, holding onto it with your hands by your sides and the needle point pointing behind you. This is negligence. He continues to say it’s my fault and being a veterinarian is not for me as getting poked by needles is common and normal and I’m making a big deal out of it. I quit and walked out after this argument as it unsafe to continue my employment here and I know this incident will occur in the future again based on that sentence
I have pictures of how he leaves the work environment after an appointment. He leaves a bunch of used, uncapped needles on the examination table and sink countertop. The sharps bin is located right behind the sink. Less than 1 meter away from the examination table.
As well, there’s a signed document stating I began my employment from may 17,2023 and will finish may17, 2024 however I was unpaid for my training shifts which I believe is illegal. I have witness
Is there anything else I can do beside the worksafebc claim? To the representative of worksafebc, he said I was a trainee and I bumped into him and I got poked accidentally. Im unsure about my rights. This is the first time it’s happened to me and I’ve worked in other vet clinic setting as well as research labs that involve sharps and chemicals. I’m happen to answer any questions and provide more info. Thank you

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I wanted to re-organise my PC storage and move my Downloads folder from a spare drive back to my boot drive (I got a larger boot drive). I opened the Location tab of the Downloads folder properties and set the new location to Boot(C:)>Users>JohnSmith, thinking it would put the downloads folder inside my User folder, but it ended up renaming and replacing my JohnSmith folder as Downloads. No files were lost, as I chose to move only the location of the folder and not the contents themselves. My JohnSmith (now Downloads) folder still has all the files that were there previously.
I am unable to Undo this action, nor can I move the downloads folder again, as the Location tab in folder properties is missing. I have tried to create a new user folder, but as soon as I enter a folder name the folder disappears and is not created. I have tried to rename the new Downloads folder as well, which didn't work.
If anyone can help me find a solution I would be so appreciative! Thank you all for taking the time to read.
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