Christmas song bum bum bum

We have been dating for a little over 4 years and when we first started dating I was just finishing up my undergrad, started going to grad school, got a job during my studies, everything was going great, etc. I quit schooling because I felt like I wasn't truly that passionate and I didn't want to waste all the money in my college fund on something I wasn't really feeling and thought it'd probably be better to use that money towards something I really love. I kept working at my job though in the meantime and according to my boyfriend and things I would say, that job made me miserable. After about six months he told me I had to quit or he'd break up with me. But he was also sorta kind about it by putting it under this umbrella of "I will support us while you find something you are passionate about and pursing that". So I quit that job and had no clue what to do for about 6 months. Of course I tackled all the house duties and kept up on my appearance by going to the gym all the time (which I still do). Eventually I decided to use the rest of the money towards a technical school/bootcamp whatever you wanna call it. It's been about 8 months and I'm still doing it (it was supposed to only be a 6 month thing) and honestly the job security when I get out is pretty bad. I guess I've just been so unmotivated and super depressed because I feel like such a failure at my age and basically just pity myself. My boyfriend is super upset by how bad of a job I do cleaning, how I'm still doing this bootcamp when I told him it would take a shorter amount of time, and don't please him enough (sometimes I like to wear baggy clothes, but he's pretty traditional and prefers I try a bit harder everyday). So now I need money and figuring I might just do serving in a restaurant since it's something that can make me money in the meantime and I need to be able to pay rent next month. Anyways, he's started calling me a "loser", a "bum", a "disappointment", someone who just takes advantage of him", a "liar" for not finishing the bootcamp in time, someone who "uses his family" (he comes from a wealthy background so occasionally they take me on trips with them and give me hefty gifts for birthdays and xmas), and jus overall someone who has made his life awful and that he regrets ever meeting me. All this words hurt and feed into my already existing depression which I think makes it hard to do anything. He really has financially helped a lot by paying for all the groceries and buying my gifts from time to time. Am I just feeling bad for myself and is he valid for calling me these things? Am I just too sensitive?
TLDR; boyfriend thinks I am a bum and that I use him, but in reality I'm just trying my best out here and don't know what to do

So In my country, there is a festival for girls where it's a tradition to wear new dress. It lasts for three days and some girls wear new dresses for every 3 days. I was actually excited for it as I had already searched for nice tops and a pair of jeans that I really liked and were trendy. One top especially as I had seed it one one of friends and really liked it. So I had added it to cart, just a different colour. In my area, It is norm to only buy new dresses on festivals as there are many festivals and those dresses are enough. I have gone one size up so a lot of dresses don't fit me anymore.
But in last few years, My father buys me dresses but repeats one thing at first always, "You weren't like this before. You knew how to adjust. You would just wear your sister's old ones. You didn't ask for too much. You were better before" and this eventually spirals to how I don't study hard as before and don't get first position like before. It happened in these lockdown times. Maybe because my mom used to wreck havoc about how MANY dresses me and my sisters had and how it was too much to clean etc.
This year I had made many impulse purchases but I still kept the cost to a bare minimum. Like my birthday outfit was nearly 10 US dollars.(I am Indian). Another was 6. I just found a cheap online shopping site. This time I had properly researched and read the reviews before I chose my outfit. I then showed it to my mom. She liked one top and my jeans. But didn't like the other one. (the one I liked from a friend). But I still pestered her to let me order it. She just said wait, wait and delayed it. Now It's very close the date of festival and there is not enough time for shipping. I confronted my mom about it and she was like, buy it from local shops. But it's costlier and they don't have what I like. But I still said okay.
It happened in the morning. I thought my mom meant she would go with me for shopping so I asked her again some time ago. She angrily said It's not time yet. wait. But then she just called me into the bedroom and said to my father that she (I) wants something. I didn't understand at first but then got it. I said about the festival. But my father repeated again, "You knew how to adjust....." I was fed up so I stood up and went, "ok , I don't need a new outfit at all, I am adjusting " and stormed out of the room. But my father called me and said " No I am not asking you to adjust, You can buy a dress. Why are you getting so angry nowadays? " I just replied, " Whatever. I am totally okay with not buying and I will not celebrate it at all." My father insisted and it was done. Keep in mind that yesterday beacause his vegan friend came over who was vegan and didn't eat in meat cooked dishes or stove, He bought a new induction cooker for him alongwith new dishes. And his friend only comes over once every few months.
Then my mom finally interjected saying okay go to ________(a nearby shop) and buy her a dress. I was totally bummed. Then she said that also take her cousin and buy her one too. (My father's sister's daughter who has been staying in my uncle's house these few days.) And my father quickly agreed. My mother asked my father for a dress for my older which he also agreed.
Now we will go out in a few minutes. But I am dreading it actually. In the past few years, I have been doing a struggle, a protest like in a court to defend myself just for what? To have a bare piece of clothing. But for others it's easy for my parents to just give money. When it comes to me, No, I go out too much, I have so many problems that I cannot be given anything. Yesterday I literally had to beg for 75 cents to buy a fancy clip at a fair. It is too much. And my father would not let me buy anything trendy as it would not be to" his liking". Ultimately I would be in most conservative shit which is too big as anything else is too short or so that I have space to grow, which in the case of oversized t-shirts, completely different, as it's weird and too much. I am planning to be in my old clothes till it literally rips off or my shirts become so tight and short that it becomes a crop top. No need for so much drama for a simple outfit which I would have bought happily for a cheaper rate and to my liking.
Just wanted to vent a little.

As the title says, my GF is going to sign a new rental agreement, however we are not yet sure if I will move with her. The place we live in now is in my name and the new one will be on hers. Our relationship has been deteriorating because of: 1: I lack personal growth, this bums her out since she wants tk grow together and it bums me out as well 2: I have a very low self esteem and don't deem myself worth of a lot. 3: Our intimacy is lacking
We both see upsides and downsides to staying together / getting seperate places. On the one hand I love living with her but also wouldnt mind my own space. Monthly expenses will increase for both of us, even though we can both afford it. Maybe staying apart will reintroduce some new intimacy (imagine date nights and such) Also i am trying to make new friends and find new hobbies, to help with my personal growth as well (I need help finding hobbies but that is less important) so having seperate place might help also.
What is the best way to tackle this dividedness? Any help is appreciated

I just got a new Sebo E3 Premium and so far I think I like it, but I’m second guessing my purchase. It’s my first canister so I’m still getting used to it. The thing that is bothering me A LOT is that the canister seems to attract cat hair like a magnet. I bought a white vacuum and I have a black cat. It’s kind of shocking how much cat hair accumulates on the canister, but it seems like it’s statically charged. I do wipe it down after use, but it somehow attracts hair even when in the closet. I haven’t had this problem in the past with other vacuums, but I’ve always had darker colored uprights. So if there was any hair on it, I didn’t notice.
I’m still in the return window for the vacuum, but I don’t know if I’m allowed to exchange it for a different color. Had I known the cat hair would stick all over it, I would have bought the graphite. I don’t know what to do because this was a very expensive purchase for me and I plan to keep it for at least 15 years, so I’m bummed that I don’t love it because this issue bothers me.
Does anyone else with a white Sebo have this issue with pet hair? I’m also curious if the issue gets better over time as I keep vacuuming (although the cat will just keep on shedding too). Also wondering if those who have had a white Sebo for a while have had any problems with the plastic yellowing? I’m worried about that too but didn’t think of it until after my purchase.

It certainly bummed me out a bit when Dial of Destiny's reception started off with a rather mixed reception.
Showing the film off at Cannes film festival well over a month before release with no review embargo was certainly a misfire that could very well have killed the film's hype. We won't know untill the thing is out and what it's box office will be like.
But seeing the onslaught of posts of those claiming 'i don't care about Rotten Tomatoes' is both silly and kinda pathetic. You wouldn't be making a post like that if deep down it wasn't having some affect on you.
At the end of the day, you yourself can only decide what you think about a movie. This ain't rocket science.
I could name a half dozen films I love that don't even have a 50 on Rotten Tomatoes. Super Troopers (2002) for example.
At the same time I could also name plenty of films I despise that are highly received, or even Oscar winners. Birdman (2014), Revenge of the Sith (2005), Avengers Endgame (2019).
And can we please knock it off with the 'Disney pays of critics for positive reviews.' That doesn't happen, like ever. There is no bribery, not with money, screenings or publicity.
Citing The Last Jedi and Captain Marvel as evidence that they are paid off isn't evidence no matter how much you scream and shout.
Just think of the size of a story like that would be in addition to the amount that would have to be paid out in Fraud charges.
You don't even have to think about it Sony already did something similar when they created a fake film critic back in the early 2000s and paid well over $1 Million in fines when they got caught.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Manning_(fictitious_writer)
Disagreeing with film critics is not some 'hot take' or some rebellion against the system as I've seen some word it. It means you disagreed with them.
And if you ever looked at who these film critics are that make up Rotten Tomatoes, half the time you're gonna be surprised and realize that a decent chunk of them are YouTubers and online Vloggers.
Grace friggin Randolph out of all people is somehow a certified Critic and her criteria for judging films is ridiculous in addition to the amount of shit she makes up and tries to pass off as 'entertainment news.'
Anywho I myself will be watching Dial of Destiny when it comes out and for all I know I could very well not like it or be mixed on it. I won't know until I watch it.

My family just got back from a trip to Hershey Park. This was my first amusement park experience since becoming a parent three and a half years ago. Before then, I used to love thrill rides and would go on all kinds of coasters. It was a bonding experience for me and my siblings.
I rode a really smooth, amazing coaster called Candymonium, which I would have loved pre-parenthood. I even rode in the front, with my brother and dad, just like old times.
The entire time I was on the ride, I did NOT enjoy myself and was white knuckle grasping the harness thinking to myself, if this harness pops open I won't have the strength to hang onto it, if I fly out of this thing and die, my child will no longer have a mother. And all kinds of other thoughts instead of being able to enjoy myself. I was relieved when it ended and felt pretty worn out emotionally the rest of the day.
I'm bummed this is happening to me but I also understand why. I just have more responsibility now and have switched into a mode of life where my kid's happiness outweighs my own.
I'm just kind of sad lol. Has anyone else experienced this? Please tell me your stories so I don't feel alone.

It was all a great time and all and I'm really glad we got to see some more music but honestly I'm really bummed about Kamikaze Palm Tree getting cancelled last night. At least some other shitty band came on later to play.

A little bummed it’s right after I ovulate but July we start trying and I’m a little nervous and little excited.

Really bummed I can’t make it tonight - if anyone would like my tickets please just comment with your favourite Watsky line.
First come first serve - hope everyone has a fantastic time tonight!

I'm new to Reddit so I'm probably doing this wrong. I 21 (M) am dating easily my best friend 21 (F) for over a year now and things for the most part have been perfect. We are so similar and get along so well, she genuinely means the world to me and I know I want us to be together for a very long time. I feel kinda worthless right now and I think it comes down to me not having a driving license yet (I'm learning but booking a test nowadays is impossible without having to travel a few hours) and not having a fulltime job after graduating (I finished my course last week and I working a job I hate so I can surprise her by paying for a trip away). I can't tell if she thinks the same, I don't usually get down about things but I feel super shit right now and not sure if it's these things or something else. And because of my state of mind, I keep thinking she's going to think l'm some sort of bum and leave me even though she said she doesn't think I'm a bum. Idk, I feel like I'm a mess and I'm crumbling. I'm usually the rock for people to help them up and now I feel as if I can't even hold myself right now :/

I am a person of color. I drive an expensive car. I live in a high cost of living area.
It’s important for me to mention these things because for all of my life, the people I know and associate with - plus the media that shows up on my feed - believe that people like me are targeted and mistreated by the police. They hate law enforcement. When I bought my car, people told me to be very careful because I would probably get pulled over and harassed. This isn’t to say that those types of things don’t happen. However, I have my own beliefs that I am:
Always treated fairly. The police are here to protect me. The police aren’t against me because I’m not a criminal.
I also have the belief that I NEVER get pulled over. I haven’t received any kind of traffic infraction in years.
So a few months ago, I picked up my morning coffee and started driving back home. As I approached a stop sign, I looked to my right and saw a cop parked by a commercial building. I wasn’t worried. I didn’t tense up. They were just doing their job, and I was minding my business.
Well, as I turned right onto the main road and drove past him, he turned on his lights and pulled me over.
WTFFFF?!!?! But I never get pulled over!!!! Lol
I could’ve gotten combative and aggressive. I could’ve seen him as my “enemy” and I could’ve made a scene and told him he was targeting me for XYZ reason. But those aren’t my beliefs.
He told me I didn’t fully stop at the stop sign, and I told him I thought that I did come to a complete stop, especially since I clearly saw his vehicle before I pulled up to the intersection. But either way, I gave him my info and he went back to his vehicle to do whatever.
So as I was waiting for him, I got a little bummed and told myself, “well, I guess I can’t say I don’t get pulled over anymore.” But what I was thinking didn’t even feel right. It didn’t align with my natural state, so my inner thoughts instantly shifted.
I started telling myself, “Okay, so what if he pulled me over? He’s not going to give me a ticket. I never get tickets EVER. This is just a 3D glitch. I’m not getting a ticket.”
I said this a few times, laughed at the 3D, sat back, and sipped my coffee lol I was so unbothered because I already knew what was going to happen.
Even as he walked back to my car with a piece of paper in his hand, I didn’t care. I knew I wasn’t going to get a ticket. He handed me the paper and it had statistics about the number of accidents we have in the city and why it’s important to drive safely. He let me go with just a warning.
I told my SP and a few other people what happened and they couldn’t believe that someone that looks like me only got a warning. Because in their realities, they believe people like us get pulled over and locked up “for any reason.”
A few things I learned from the situation:
It’s important to build up your beliefs. Start deciding how you want things to operate in your life right now. Get ahead of any thoughts that contradict your desire to live the life of your choosing.
The 3D is going to do whatever the hell it wants. It’s your job to observe it but not let it affect you. My beliefs about police were so solid that I was able to laugh at the 3D. The circumstances couldn’t even bother me.
I hope this was helpful to someone out there.
Happy manifesting!

I’m 23 and she’s 20, we used to live in the same area and that’s where we became good friends but she moved to the US and I could only see her through social media though she still called me and kept in contact with me and checked in on me quite often but I noticed through looking at her stories that she was far exceeding me in every area in life
I’m basically a broke bum who’s failed college twice and is trying again for the third time whereas as soon as she got America she became a an assistant coach for her college track team, always posts her top grades, shows her scholarships she’s gotten, got her first car which was a Mercedes that she worked for, now has a loving boyfriend who’s D1 in his football team, all her younger sibling are doing pretty well for themselves too and I’m not gonna lie, it’s pretty overwhelming, every time I see her stories and her updates I feel like shit and it got to the point where I just had to remove her
I feel bad for it she’s probably confused but I honestly could not deal with it anymore, it’s selfish I know and I wish her the best but I just can’t keep seeing all tjat