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JNM has been living with us for a few years. She failed to manage her finances after divorce and spent herself into massive debt. She got evicted, had no money left, no work history, is too young for SS, has health issues, and did not attend college. I didn’t want her to be homeless and we had a spare room, so she moved in. I made it clear that it would be a temporary arrangement.
I foolishly thought she’d get her shit together financially after a year or two of living here for free, but it didn’t happen and likely never will. She checks off all of the “just no” boxes (no boundaries, manipulative, liar, irrational, entitled, emotionally abusive and immature, likely has a personality disorder, etc). She has done and said some unforgivable things during her time here. The situation at home has become untenable and I am done sacrificing my mental health for her benefit.
We recently gave her a firm move out date. Given that she doesn’t have an income, it’s likely that the date we gave her will come and go without meaningful action on her part. We are prepared to go to court to remove her from our home. I’ve educated myself about the legal eviction process in our county.
Because I’m a planner, I’m asking for advice regarding what to do to protect ourselves and our property as we get closer to parting ways. Because of her dishonesty and financial situation, we don’t trust her at all. We’ve frozen our credit, valuables and important documents are already locked up, we’re planning on being here when she moves out, and we will be changing all locks after she’s gone. I am completely emotionally detached from her and her bullshit at this point, so none of her go-to manipulation tactics will work. Anything else I’m not anticipating? Have you been through something similar, and do you have wisdom to share? TIA.

I currently live in a city in the US that has great public transport. My apartment is a 5 minute walk from a plaza with a grocery store, convenience store with pharmacy, an urgent care, restaurants, clothing department stores, and an entire shopping mall with access to a metro. I can access Costco, an electronics store, another clothing department store, and even more restaurants with a 10-15 minute walk. I literally never needed a car and have never been happier. I now need to move back home for personal reasons. While my hometown is affluent and extremely safe, it is also very car dependent. Instead of a 10 minute walk to get to grocery stores, I’d need to drive ten minutes and then I’d come across a mass of car dealerships and shopping plazas with large parking lots. It’s honestly a bit of a depressing move. I have a fear of driving since I’ve seen car accidents and know people who have been physically injured by them. It’s just not something I feel safe doing, not the mention the need to drop thousands on a car. I almost want to drop everything and just not move but unfortunately it’s that time in one’s life where parents are getting older and it’s time to step up and care for them. Of course I’m willing to go and care for my parents, but going from a walkable area to a completely unwalkable city is a huge downgrade. Just my little rant.

I think I have bad luck or something. I have motion sensor cameras, a locking gate, motion sensor light, male work boots, and a fence. Yet people still try to come onto my property. However it's not sales people, religious people---
It's kids who ding dong ditch, drivers who follow me home and pull into my driveway, those kinds of people I'm trying to deter.
I have a no trespassing sign at my gate. However at the end of my long driveway I'm trying to figure out what I can put there to deter people in the first place. My driveway is mostly hidden for many different reasons, and I worry by putting up a sign at the end of the driveway it might entice some people to come. So I'm trying to figure out what I can put at the end of my driveway. Would a private property sign be enticing? Would a smile you're on camera sign be a deterrent? I'm trying to think of creative solutions here because I am beyond pissed and I just want to be a grumpy swamp monster and be left alone.

Any cards with new large SUB? Basically, looking for either a construction card or travel card that has a large sign-up bonus at the moment. Current credit cards you are the primary account holder of: • Chase ink cash and unlimited for sole prop – 2-3 years’ old • Have cards/account with Amex, US bank, citi, Boa, C1. oldest card is over 11 years • Amex plat and citi custom as well
FICO Score: 790 +/- 20 • Number of personal credit cards approved for in the past 6 months: 1 • Number of personal credit cards approved for in the past 12 months: 1 • Number of personal credit cards approved for in the past 24 months: 2 Annual income: ~$200k CATEGORIES • OK with category-specific cards?: Yes • OK with rotating category cards?: Yes • Estimate average monthly spend in the categories below. Only include what you can pay by credit card. MEMBERSHIPS & SUBSCRIPTIONS (delete lines that don't apply) o Current member of Amazon Prime?: No o Current member of Costco or Sam's Club? Costco o Current member of Chase, US Bank or any other big bank?: Chase, BOA o Active US military?: No o Are you open to Business Cards?: Yes
I have an upcoming renovation and will be spending 2k-4k mainly from home depot, lowes and any other stores that we need supplies from. And will also be traveling soon and will spend 2k-3k
I’m trying to decide between the Venture X and the Amex Green or something else. I rather not get both at the same time because I want to try to keep under 5/24. So am more open to business cards.I've already gotten the hilton business one and hit the SUB.
I thought of the green because of the large SUB, VentureX because it’s one that I’ll probably keep going forward. I’m in popup jail for the regular Amex plat. I know there’s a NLL 200k points for the business plat and if I thought I could spend 15k in the next three months I would’ve gotten that one. But not max is 10k in the next three months and that’s stretching it.

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I'm looking for inexpensive..HEART HEALTHY no dairy no soy recipes.
My MIL had a heart attack ..and is now home. She is also having possible kidney issues we are waiting on those results.
Have anything 5 and under on your list or a gift card.
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I will leave this open for idk how long because things are crazy.
On a positive note she QUIT SMOKING immediately.. she has not had a cig since she got home and were VERY PROUD of her for that. Sadly this cost her her trip to see her siblings in Michigan.. she can not travel. We're hoping they will come see her and we can get them a hotel room for a night or two or something to have time (out apt is very small and can't really extend to company of 3 ppl)
Also any ideas to keep her spirits up w no car and low activity would be so helpful.

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TL;DR version up front:
Our cat (5, male, neutered, indoors only) has viciously attacked my wife twice and shown signs of aggression several other times in the past two months. We believe the reason is due to a brief fight with an outdoor cat that got inside (no injuries). He only attacks when she picks up one of our other cats around him, maybe confusing who she's holding for a foreign cat, and he attacks HER, not the other cat. He has reacted strangely/aggressively(?) when I myself have done the same, so it's not her in particular.
He has no other behavioral or health problems. He does not show aggression when he sees cats through the window outside. He is an amazing, sweet and loving cat outside of these handful of incidents that we are trying to make sense of. (All of our cats get along fine with each other btw)
Does anyone have any experience with a feline behaviorist? What was the experience like, what to expect? Any recommendations in central Texas? Or any online resources for treating redirected aggression?
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Detailed version:
My wife and I share a house with our four cats: six-month-old female kittens Mimi and Melon, and adults Marco (5yrs, neutered, indoors only) and Mau (4yrs, neutered, indoors only). A couple of months ago, neighborhood cat Kiki invaded our home, triggering a fight with Marco. This was Marco's first violent encounter, leading to an immediate burst of displaced aggression towards my wife. (Incident #1, two months ago) He had never had any experience remotely similar to this for his entire life leading up to this.
After Incident #1, Marco returned to his usual loving demeanor. A little later, Melon and Mimi were isolated upstairs post-Melon's spaying surgery (Mimi was locked up with Melon to keep her company). After about a week of isolation, Mimi unexpectedly emerged downstairs, surprising Marco in the same location where his skirmish with Kiki had occurred. This surprising encounter rekindled Marco's aggressive behavior, resulting in him attacking my wife as she quickly picked up Mimi in order to return her to her room. (Incident #2, one month ago)
Though Marco's behavior returned to normal for a while after Incident #2, he attacked my wife again today when she bent down to pick up Mau. (Incident #3)
Our only theory so far is that Incident #1 might have left an emotional imprint on Marco, causing him to associate the location where it happened with the feeling of aggression. Incident #2 overlapped enough with Incident #1 (same location, and a similar experience of seeing a cat he did not expect) to not only trigger aggression, but to also expand his triggers to include certain stimuli from Incident #2 (like picking up another cat in front of him).
Several hours after Incident #3 today, I picked up Mau in front of Marco to test Marco’s response. Marco did not attack me, but he did meow in a strange (maybe tense?) way. It was a strange meow that we basically never hear from him. To us, this supports the hypothesis that seeing another cat being picked up, is likely indeed one of Marco’s triggers. (We assumed we probably pick the cats up in front of the other cats all the time, but it turns out maybe not)
This is just a theory of course, as we are not experts. If anyone has any other ideas about what could be going on here, we’d love to hear from you.

My boyfriend has been visiting me in the US for 2 weeks. He has developed a medical issue he may need treatment for before he flies home in 48 hours. What are our options? Is paying out of pocket at a redicare the best option?

So I'm already a year late for foundation because apparently because of my negligence i didn't realise that the dec foundation had an extended deadline till aug.
And now I'm in a college known for its notorious attendance. I'm back at my hometown and my parents weren't home that's why I was stuck in a different city.
I don't even have a month for foundation and i have litrally zero prep. I mean not zero I've done 40-50 marks worth acc and math whenni was stuck. And only soga in law, rest all are remaining. Bcr,bck, eco didn't even touch them what should I do I'm crying. I ha e 20-21 days for foundation and people are telling me I'll fail.
Pls help me out, is passing foundation possible now? What should I do? How many hours should I give? Plsss just take me Outta this mess i just wanna pass foundation cause I'm quite excited to study for inter( i like new subjects even though they might torture me)

We live in a duplex. My husband, myself and our daughter on one side and my brother, his fiancé and their 3 kids on the other side. My brothers fiancé doesn't work and neither does my husband. Both due to medical issues (she has kidney and liver problems that cause severe swelling in her joints so she needs to be elevated a lot and my husband has a really bad back and is due for surgery soon but he just ruptured another disk and is in a lot of pain). I work overnights (6pm to 6a) and my brother works (6a to 6p). Neither me nor my brother mind being the bread winners. We both love an appreciate our spouses for all they are; ailments and all.
Well, my brothers 2 older kids are off with their grandmother on a mini vacation a state over and they kept their youngest boy (6) home. He has pretty severe separation anxiety, ASD and ADHD so he chose not to go and stay home with mom. I know she wanted to have alone time with him and I completely understand so maybe I was wrong in asking but when I saw her getting her son ready in his beach gear for their "mommy/son" day, I reached my head out and asked if she could take my daughter (12). She said "Nope, I'm only bringing my son" and laughed a bit, so I assumed she thought I was joking and so I asked again. I said "I have to leave for work and Chris is in so much pain tonight that he just wants to be able to relax". She lost it a bit. She said "What the fuck ever. Tell her to get her bathing suit." I followed her to her car and said "you don't have to, it's fine. I just figured Heath would want someone to play with" and she goes "I obviously do have to. I said no and you decided to take that as an opportunity to manipulate me by using your husband's back pain as a crutch. Just tell my niece to get ready." She did end up taking my daughter.
Well, I just got a text from my brother a bit ago and he was blowing up on me because he said I was ignorant for continuing to push his fiancé after she blatantly said no because she was trying to get alone time in with their son. He said that he is tired of his fiancé "being backed in to a corner" and not being respected by me? I'm at a loss here.

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I had a thought while playing through the Kulrut mission in HFW. Considering all that Aloy has done for some many tribes (stopping Regalla, saving Meridian, anointed to the Nora, Chieftan in the Cut to the Banuk, Living Ancestor to the Quen, helper to the Oseram and Utaru, Hekarro's Champion, Savior, etc) she must be revered and loved by many from several tribes. And it had me thinking. If Aloy never specifies, never thinks of it or asks anyone,
Where would Aloy be buried when she dies?
A bit somber, but it just had me thinking. The Nora lands never really felt like home, she has friends everywhere, from everywhere. What would happen when she eventually dies? Would the Carja and Tenakth be fighting over where their Champion is buried? The Nora throwing in their hat claiming she was anointed by Their Goddess. Not to mention what could possibly happen in Horizon 3.
So where do you all think Aloy would want to go? Nora lands with Rost? Next to Varl? Maybe even with Seyka (depending on your choice) if she goes before Aloy? Or maybe somewhere else that we'll see in the 3rd game. What do you guys think?

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Hi there!
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I can't decide between the 3. So I am working mainly as a designer and development as a side hustle.
I have saved enough already to get 1 from these 3. I am used to working on OLED and IPS as well and tried retina of macs s well.
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• I mainly design brands, logos, UI/UX and a few videos using CapCut
• I have an extra 4k resolution monitor (LG C2 42 Evo Oled)

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As a mainly creative, which one do you suggest me to get?
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My pros and cons between the 3 are as follows:
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ASUS Zenbook Duo 14

• Cheaper than the PRO Duo which has an OLED. But I'm doubting the downgraded version of Zenbook Duo which uses an IPS screen. Why I doubt it? I currently have a laptop, Acer Predator, which has an IPS and its screen sucks so bad. It looks like it is a TN panel
• 2 monitors and both touch screens as well. Somewhat a better battery than my current laptop
• Almost the same price as a Macbook Pro M1 in my area
• Good specs as well

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ASUS Zenbook PRO Duo 14

• OLED screen
• Bigger ram
• Much powerful spec
• Pricier out of the 3. Around $2,500 in my country)

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Macbook AIPRO M1

• Great display
• Longer battery
• The air is on sale in my current area as well for around $800. ON LOCAL stores only
• fixed ram, only 8gb. Apple website in my country selles the M2 variants already.

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I'm actually gunning for the Zenbooks but I dont know if the price increase to get a Zenbook PRO Duo is worth it compare to just getting the Zenbook Duo
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Note that color accuracy is important to me and a better color accuracy from my Acer Predator 2020 is already good for me. This will not be used for gaming as I already have a high-end gaming PC.

The receipt of virtual currency as payment for goods or services provided; The receipt or transfer of virtual currency for free (without providing any consideration) that does not qualify as a bona fide gift; The receipt of new virtual currency as a result of mining and staking activities; The receipt of virtual currency as a result of a hard fork; An exchange of virtual currency for property, goods, or services; An exchange/trade of virtual currency for another virtual currency; A sale of virtual currency; and Any other disposition of a financial interest in virtual currency. If a taxpayer disposed of any virtual currency that was held as a capital asset through a sale, exchange or transfer, they must check "Yes" and use Form 8949 to figure their capital gain or loss and report it on Schedule D (Form 1040). 1. Voyager we didn't sale our crypto but the coins that weren't transferable are given as cash is that considered a sale? Do we check Yes? Lost 15,000 2. My wallet was hacked do I have to report this and check Yes? Lost 9,000 3. What the 😨 Do I do crypto has been a nightmare 4. On top of all this insanity I'm on Currently Non collectable with IRS crypto was my plan to pay back taxes 15,000.

I think I will come off as spoiled so I apologize.
As the title says, I resent my life. Quick run down to catch up, sorry for the bad grammar. I'm a sophomore, going into my junior year of college. I grew up with an abusive father, lovely mother and brother. Mom remarried to my step-father, grew up bullied with a lot of racism. I went through a lot of CBT for cPTSD and for *possible* bipolar but it was never confirmed. Was prescribed Lithium, severe symptoms, got off of it. Got prescribed Vyvanse, got addicted, my psychiatrist insisted I stay on it. You get it, sappy backstory and whatever.
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My sophomore year of college was hard for me. I was rooming with my best friend after having a big argument about me getting SA in freshman year -- she believes that since I'm bi, SA from a girl is not possible. After, I found out my uncle who raised me for a long time has late stage cirrhosis from heavy alcoholism since a child. My grandma got breast cancer again. My mom kept calling me to "keep me updated", essentially crying about how they're dying and giving up on life. My roommate/bestfriend became verbally and physically abusive towards me. My significant other (19m) who was my superior at my work became emotionally abusive. I cut them out. I lost my health from bronchitis several times then lost my health insurance and got pneumonia. Got my health insurance back, my roommate gave me a concussion and I developed Broca's aphasia and vertigo. I'm pre-med and my teachers weren't understanding so I was just grinding out work, crying, etc.
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I got home and was relieved to finally relax. First I had to deal with withdrawals from Vyvanse and Adderall. I let everyone know I needed space and just hid out, not eating and crying for a couple days. Then this is where I started to resent everything.
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My mom is amazing, 10/10 woman who overextends herself and is very empathetic. But our family relies on her, so she relies on me as her personal therapist. For mothers day I took her out, bought her gifts and she cried. She confided that she hates my step-dad (he was on a business trip) and how he never takes care of heshe hates her life. she always tells me how she wants to run away and what not. My mother got sick due to some rare condition where the nerves in her pelvic area give her severe pain (I'm not sure of what the condition is). She then got a UTI that went into her kidneys and one day I wake up to many missed calls from my stepdad and grandma that I need to take her to the hospital ASAP. My mom refused to go and claimed everyone was lying... shortly after she broke her tooth. The days after that my step-dad came home but when I would wake up I was just alone in the house.
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All of this is fine, it really is. I wish my mom would take care of herself but she doesn't. I'm an adult I can cook for myself and take care of myself. But I just became numb. A couple days after, my resting HR was 180 and I just turned off my feelings. All I felt was just resentment. I wish my mom would get a therapist and take care of herself. I can't fix her problems and she won't even listen to me. I internalized what my mom said about my stepdad and I just started to hate him. Everytime my mom or anyone cries all I can think is how I can't stand it anymore. I never dealt with any of my past trauma from the year, I thought I could deal with it later. I have summer classes starting in 2 days and I'm exhausted. I hate taking Vyvanse, I don't really eat or sleep its bothersome. I'm not suicidal, I have too much responsibility taking care of my family. But I am infatuated with death. I just fantasize about dying and being reborn so I can run away.
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I was going to post this but then my mom called me over, asking "why do you hate me so much". I told her essentially that I can't handle all of the trauma related topics, I wish she would take care of herself, I can't be happy while everyone around me is so depressed, etc. She told me that she was sorry because she should have known I wouldn't be able to handle listening to her. I got really frustrated, ik I can't handle it but I suggested she get a therapist -- I'm the only person she can talk to. She told me that I'm an adult and I should be able to take care of myself without their help. I do agree but that wasn't what I said.
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It was frustrating, I was being ignorant but idk. I'm going to work in a job I don't care for. Overwork. I am terrified of having kids -- I had a young abortion. I feel like everyone around me is dying. I don't have any friends. I don't know how to move out. I could bare it all but I'm starting to realize even true love doesn't exist. Honestly its silly but I read a lot of romance in hopes that I could at least have a loving partner (all the relationships modeled around me are abusive with my parents, grandparents, uncles, etc). I just resent everything, it's all so pointless. I just can't feel anything, I feel empty but numb.
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I'm rambling I apologize. I bought a Pokemon card at a book store and I got happy so there's that :P, thank you for reading. I did drink (alcohol) so I apologize if this is unorganized.

Just received our pre-approval for a home loan and it is lower than we expected. We can only offer up to 598. I don't understand how people are able to buy 700+ homes, they must make very good money. My husband and I are on above average incomes but it's not enough. We also have a very good sized deposit.
Going to open homes over the weekend was very disheartening. Some are in such rough areas with rough neighbours and even those may be out of our price range. Huge numbers of people streaming through most of them. I certainly didn't appreciate the snotty real estate agent who basically told us as FHB we have no choice but to buy in a scary neighbourhood. Insisted the house she was showing would sell for 750.... well it's been on the market for 3 months so I guess the offers haven't been rolling in lady!
Anyway sorry for having a bit of a cry, I'm not just not sure how anyone gets through this process without totally falling apart! They say its more of a buyers market but it still feels like we have no chance!

Hey everyone, just wanted to update you all on what happened, so my original post was regarding me and my girlfriend buying a house together and her getting upset that I didn't want to put her name on the house title. As a brief summary, my GF and I have been together for 10 months and started to look around for houses after about 6 months together. But our relationship had moved very fast and we moved in together after 1 month, so we have spent more time together than some couples that have been together for 2 or 3 years. Not sure if this matters though. I have a very stable, high earning job and she was initially earning a lot when we first met, but fairly soon after she had to change careers and now her income is very unstable. We found a plot of land to build a house worth 1.1 mil. I put all the money onto the down payment though my GF's mom promised she would contribute 300K. A discussion with her about rights to the house caused her to feel hurt and then her mom intervened and said some very manipulative things.
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I reminisced about our relationship:
The GOOD:
- She is extremely sweet and caring 99% of the time. When we first met, she bought me an iPhone and would buy me thoughtful gifts all the time, even later when her finances were not doing as well. She is also extremely affectionate and even now always displays her affection to me (even when I'm not paying attention). Some have said this is lovebombing, though it has been consistent throughout our entire relationship.
- That 1% was her being upset or frustrated and her tone of voice would be condescending or disrespectful, though we were always able to settle our disagreements very quickly. She was and still is a very reasonable person to talk with and I feel like we can work together as a team to solve problems.
- She is very emotionally mature and often knows me better than I know myself. I have learned so much by being with her and feel I have become a more caring person and in some ways, more confident and capable.
- She is very thoughtful and always remembers the little things about me. She remembers all my favorite snacks and buys me them every month (until recently when finances were a struggle).
- Overall when I was with her, I felt happy and full of love. We were basically inseparable. I took a trip with her recently and made unforgettable memories.
The BAD:
There were a number of red flags - our relationship moved very quickly - we moved in after 1 month of seeing each other. We were spending all day every day together with no boundaries. She had planned out opening up a clinic with me (as the doctor at the clinic) with a 10 year rental contract, which I would be locked into and responsible for paying overhead. I learned soon after we started dating that she was making a lot of money by working for this wealthy doctor who had a romantic interest in her. She cut off all personal contact with him after meeting me, though continued to work with him professionally even after he confessed to her, for 2 months. She told me she worked with him until she could find alternate jobs for her friends who worked under her, but it was still suspicious. That said, she never hid anything from me and I always felt I could ask her anything about this.
She told me very early on (about 2-3 months in) that she knew I was "the one" and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. She wanted to get married but said she would wait for me whenever I was ready. While this felt nice, I also felt it was suspicious she was so ready to commit after only a short amount of time. She has always been a very headstrong confident person who didn't question her decisions.
After reminiscing and then sitting at home alone, my heart felt empty without this person. I couldn't reconcile the person I knew and loved from who she could be on the inside, if she really was after my money.
I texted her that we should break up and then found a time in person to talk and exchange our belongings. I brought up all of my concerns and told her that I simply cannot trust her anymore. To her credit, she was very respectful and gentle. It was difficult for me to face her, especially as she was extremely tearful and looked like she hadn't eaten or slept in 2 days. Despite this she kept a "loving" smile on her face. On the surface, she seemed genuine.
This is how the discussion went:
- I told her that her mom was extremely disrespectful to me especially saying that I shouldn't listen to my friend's advice and that I was selfish and coldblooded to bring up the issue of the house title, and rushing me towards marriage/kids
She told me that her mom was just very upset that I brought up the issue because in Chinese culture, it is considered very rude to sign any contract or separate out individual rights when it comes to property that is going to be a marriage home. She also said that her mom expected us to be married by the end of the year and so felt that the house ownership was a non-issue, and was just hurt that I mentioned having a plan in case we break up when to her, breaking up was not a possibility (since she had invited me to live in her home, it meant she already saw me as her son in law). Since she was hurt, she said hurtful things without thinking.
She also said that her mom was rushing us towards marriage and kids because her mom's health was not very good - history of cancer and felt very unwell, but was afraid to get checked, and didn't think she had much longer to live. She didn't want her daughter to be alone in this world if something were to happen to her. She also said her mom had heard bad things about this friend of mine who gave me the advice to have this conversation (since I told my GF that this friend of mine cheated on his ex girlfriend then got together with that girl, so her mother felt that my friends were a bad influence on me). She told me she herself never rushed me with marriage or kids (which is true) and its true that she told me she didn't even like kids in the past, but wanted them because I did. She said we could get married whenever I was ready, even if that meant she had to get a stable job first.
- I told her that I was very stressed about making the down payment on the house and I had brought this up with them, and they said they didn't have any money at the moment to help. To be fair, her mother helped me get an extension on part of the down payment (53K out of 203K) by talking to the builder, but expressed no intention to pay any of the down payment.
She said she asked me whether I had the money to make the down payment (and I said that while difficult, I did have the means to do so). And she said she fully intended to honor her mom's promise to pay 300K toward the mortgage, but the money was not ready yet. She also said that if it meant getting back together, she would be willing to take money out to pay for half of the down payment. I told her it was too little, too late, and that her previous actions suggested she had no intention to pay at all.
- I asked her why they started to look around for houses before they had gotten my agreement, and they said at the time they were just "browsing the market" without an intention to buy. At the time, I was on board with the decision to buy a house, though we didn't discuss any concrete plan for how we would split the mortgage in the future. Also since her mother had voiced about her culture that it was customary for the husband to buy the wife a house, I was concerned they wanted to put all the burden of paying for the house on me. I expressed that I felt unsupported by her during this time.
She said she did ask me if I would be able to pay the mortgage in the future and showed me some calculations of the future mortgage. I told her it would be difficult and I may need her help, and she said she would help as much as she could, but it wouldn't be 50-50. I was okay with that. However, I told her that based on the fact that they didn't help me with the down payment, and she doesn't have a stable job right now, I could not count on her to contribute to the house in the future. She promised me she would look for a stable job in the next few months, and that we didn't need to buy the house if I didn't feel ready.
Through it all she was very tearful and seemed genuine, and I was almost swayed. She brought up all the good memories we had and soon enough I couldn't hold back my tears. Both our places were filled with the memories of things we had done and bought together. She told me she respected my decision and told me she hoped in the future I would trust my heart and not let others (family and friends) make decisions for me. We both wished each other the best in the future and parted ways. It was kind of open ended because I did not say that there was no possibility of getting back together in the future. She told me she would wait for me if I ever changed my mind.
Afterwards, I went home to my parents house and analyzed everything that had been said, and all came to the conclusion that even though there was a chance I was wrong and I just let go of someone who truly loved me with all their heart, that there were too many red flags for me to ever fully trust her again. Also, this was the second time I had discussed breaking up with her (the first time was due to opening the clinic after 3 months, which she agreed not to do anymore, so I gave her another change). So I felt there was no returning from this. Also, my parents reassured me that I am still young and have lots of opportunities, so no need to dwell too much on the unknowns.
In the end, I feel that I made the right decision, although I am lying if I said I didn't have any lingering doubts. Thanks for reading.

This is a long and complicated story but basically last year, my ex was arrested for DV. It was pretty cut and dry but I wrote a letter supporting him and then didn't show up to court since I was never subpoenaed and it was dismissed and reopened. Over the meantime, we tried getting back together and it was better. The case being reopened was tough on us and eventually it led to him breaking no contact and getting caught when the cops found out - the judge increased his bond and he was stuck in jail for 2 weeks and forced to take a plea bargain (which admittedly was pretty good - reduction and one charge dismissed). He suspected I influenced the jail thing and silently left me and that led to me spiraling since I caught him on social media on a date with another girl and before jail we were together. It was not ok but I just started behaving crazy.
During this time there was a night I was struggling with my mental health from the prolonged case and trauma and went to his place. I knew there was a no contact but I missed him and was scared of being alone. I figured he might talk to me but he got super scared that he'd get caught with me again and called the cops to protect himself. I shouldn't have done this but I walked right in, like I was used to doing from our relationship. I ran out and started driving away and the cops cornered me.
So the first thing is, they thought I was the one violating no contact and when they realized they softened. They tried to look through my phone and I said no - then they asked me to sit in the back of the cop car with no phone but without arresting me. I was scared shitless. Finally they let me out and told me they weren't charging me with anything as my ex didn't want to press charges on me for trespassing and even said he didn't consider me to be trespassing, he just didnt want to violate no contact. But they yelled at me and told me I invaded someone's home. Maybe I shouldn't have done this but I responded back saying we were dating as of 2.5 weeks ago, so I thought I was still welcome there. And then I left, they said I'm free to go but then referred me to a social worker since I was dealing with mental health struggles.
Last week my ex got sentenced. He's in jail currently and our no contact has been lifted. So we have talked a bit. In court, the judge was aware of the situation from the night I was at his house and warned his lawyer and the prosecutor that pressing charges on me could be seen as retribution. My ex said he had no interest in that and that he wanted the DV case fully done and anything related to it including this.
Today I look at the mail and I find a court summons dated 3 weeks ago (e.g. well before the sentencing for my ex), saying they are charging me with a misdemeanor for entering without permission. I've confirmed with my ex that he openly didnt want to press charges on me and he even refused to write a police report. This is scary for me!! The punishment max for this is equal to DV, and it's ridiculous when I didn't do anything along the same level. And I'm so angry and sad that the prosecutor would press charges on a victim from an open DV case with the same people involved. I've never been in criminal trouble ever in my life and I could lose my dream job over it.
What do I do?!?! Is there a chance they will dismiss it if my ex talks to the prosecutor and insists he won't help them with the case and doesn't want me in trouble? Also what about the factor that I'm a victim of convicted DV? How could they do this after referring me to mental health resources? This is all so surreal and ridiculous.

I have a roommate who is a not so nice roommate. The roommate in question fights with his girlfriend a lot and ive seen her being beaten once. And it could happen more often. Obviously this isnt a great place for me to be. I hate fighting people in my home cause it causes me stress.
This roommate was working on some bikes. These bikes might be stolen, he asked me not tell girlfriend anything about the bikes. He made sure that from inside the house you cant see inside the place he works on the bikes as well.
However he left a bikeframe near the door of our backyard for weeks and my neighbour asked me if i knew who it belonged to. I was put on the spot and said the following: "i dont really know, it could be ours(because its next to our door) but im not really sure, i dont really know. She said okay because sometimes people dump bike/bikeparts like that if they were stolen.(cause dark dead end alley). I went on with my bussiness and said to roommate a day later that a neighbour complained about the object and he said okay sorry i will remove it right away.
He hasent left anything there since. However I am now scared shitless that i may have said something i shouldnt have. I feel like the following senario could happen: He leaves bikestuff there again , neighbour complains to landlord(i believe she has the number of our landlord. A neighbour has done this before about garbage being left there.not sure if its the same neighbour but that neighbour complained to our landlord). saying she asked me last time and after asking it was gone so it mightve been ours. Landlord will ask me if i know something about it. What would i say? I cant lie because roommate might say i warned him about it. I cant tell the truth cause i am afraid if i say anything about it roommate will fuck me up.(even tho he never specificly said anything about it only not tell his girlfriend).
I just feel like i sort of snitched on roommate accidently even tho he never asked me to not tell anyone ever, only not tell his GF. I also am afraid what to tell my landlord if he would ask me about it. I just dont want anything to do with it. I am extremely scared. Moving is extremely difficult for me due to reasons. On top of that i feel like he would somehow get ahold of me if i move and that situation that i am afraid of would still happen. I understand my anxiety is taking the front stage but its extremely difficult. any advise? Thanks already!