Hello, I (30F) have been in a relationship with my partner (43M) for over a year, and we had an abortion a couple months ago. Our relationship has been…rocky. He was verbally and emotionally abusive for several months and still loses his temper from time to time, mostly at my dog lately. Before I found out I was pregnant I broke up with him and he agreed that was the right idea. I was able to get insurance this time around, but there are no hospitals nearby that would meet my childbirthing philosophy/needs. I have been actively trying to move back home (3 hours away) but haven’t had much luck. I’ve applied to over 100 jobs and haven’t had any offers so far. I DO want to be a mom, but it seems like I would be having this child under a ton of otherwise nonexistent pressure.
I had an abortion when I was 19, so having a third abortion was something I had really wanted to avoid. I don’t know what to do but I know I don’t want this life, where I am sad 24/7 from not being employed and in a relationship that has caused me immense pain. I feel totally overwhelmed and made a “just in case” appointment at the clinic in a couple weeks just so I know that it’s there if I need it.
Thanks for listening 👂

Growing up, I saw firefighters and law enforcement as one of the most respectful work and heroes. Then growing up, I played lot of tennis and the court I used to play had a lot of Fireman playing and sometimes played pickup tennis with them and almost all of them talk about how they cheat on their wives/gf and how not to get caught. lol I didn't mind and just have fun playing with them and seem like nice group of guys doing locker talk. I thought it was just these group but when I moved from Seattle to Bellevue Washington, few blocks from my home is another fire station lol and they too were similar but this time playing pickleball. Later, I joined a tennis league and one of my teammates was a fireman and ended up being his doubles partner and he would share how many times he shagged this girl and that girl while married and I asked him if he was from Seattle or Bellevue and he mentioned another city lol. I don't know how I come across so many firefighters in my in recent years but just want to break this misconception and get opinions so I don't think Firefighters cheat more then let say some other professions. I got prompted to post this cause a friend of mine is getting engaged and our circle of friends think she is moving to fast with this fireman cause his reputation also cheated a lot. Also promoted myself to clear this misconception for myself too so I can see them as heroes once again.

44/f for about two weeks now, my feet, ankles and lower calves have been swelling - sometimes a lot. At first, it was just one foot and I thought it was because I was sitting on the edge of my bed a lot with right leg hanging down. Once I noticed it, I stopped letting it hang down and started to sit at my desk properly (I work from home and work on a laptop 8+ hours a day That's when i noticed both feet swelling. Called my doctor within the first few days, but have been playing phone tag with them for a telehealth appointment, which I didn't think was sufficient anyhow in this case. But for some reason, I always get a text with very short notice that I don't see until it's too late. Finally got frustrated enough to go to urgent care yesterday, because the possible causes are pretty much all terrifying to me. The nurse practitioner I saw there won't win any awards for the most thorough check up. Basically, they weighed me when I walked in (it may be good to reveal here that I recently gained about 40 pounds in under 2 months time for no apparent reason and am now extremely overweight at 178 on a 5'0" frame), took my vitals (BP 147/82)and then waited for the NP. The only thing she did was listen to my heart and lungs with a stethoscope and pressed my leg to check for fluid. She determined that there was fluid, prescribed a diuretic (Lasik) and strongly urged a follow up with my PCC, which I will walk into on Monday morning, hopefully to be seen, but to make an appointment that I'm aware of before it starts. Also, I do smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol and am in recovery for a cocaine addiction (3 years clean, but weight is a trigger and im concerned about that at this point!). Also missed my period this month for the first time in what I believe is onset of menopause. Don't believe I'm pregnant because tubes are "clipped, tied and burned" for last 15 years, but the NP declined to give me a pregnancy test when I asked if she thought it was necessary. My question is what could this be? Is it emergent as I've described, or how will I know if it becomes emergent before Monday? I'm scared and would appreciate reassurance.

I 25M met this guy earlier this week 24 m. He was in town for business and the last 3 nights he was here we spent some time together. We met on tinder and he asked me to come to his hotel room and honestly was just expecting a hookup but there is just something about him that I can’t get him off my mind. I’ve never felt like this way towards a person so quickly, but it was like we had this immediate chemistry and connection. As soon as I met him everything was just so effortlessly. The conversation came easy and he just didn’t really seem like a stranger if that makes sense. He’s very sweet, funny, charismatic, and seems like a very down to earth person and bonus that the sex was I think the best I’ve ever had. He went back home and chances are I won’t see him again, but god am I praying that our paths cross again or that he wants to stay in touch.

Okay so I don’t actually go to the gym I just do DIY stuff at home I am just looking to make friends with someone, preferably another girl, so we can lose weight and work on whatever body goals we have.
I’m 140 lbs, 5’6 and my goal is 120 lbs + bigger butt so I’ll be doing stationary biking, leg exercises/calisthenics, and yoga
I usually wake up early in the morning like 5-10am and sleep early like 8-10pm. Hopefully our timezones are close and you’re also a morning owl like me so we can brew some tea/coffee to drink and voice chat and talk about our day before we start working out.
I was thinking this could be a decent starting routine for us:
M-F no weekends: 60min cardio (any kind is okay, and walking is valid, I personally like stationary biking)
M-F + weekends: 30-60min yoga, I personally follow Yoga With Adriene, but we can watch other yoga YouTubers
M-F no weekends: 30-60min calisthenics/weight training so we can be more specific and say like 100 squats, 50 situps, 50 lunges, etc or we can do it by minutes. Up to you, or we can follow a training guide which I’m 100% down for.
And movies/shows - yeah I’m down to watch almost anything. Two shows on my watchlist are Scream netflix series and Euphoria. We could take turns on which movie or show to watch.

I (23m) was questioning my gender and recently thought I was trans for a bit. This past January I met a guy on tinder (25m) who I told day one I was questioning my gender and he didn’t seem to mind. We talked for two weeks, he visited me for two nights and then we talked for another two weeks before we had a conversation where I basically told him I was considering transitioning. We stopped talking in early February (because he’s gay and couldn’t date a trans woman). Well, recently i’ve been thinking I don’t really want to transition and be a woman after all, and just want to be more fem as a gay guy. Recently, I tried to catch up with the guy as well, my intention was just as friends, and I didn’t tell him yet that I decided to not transition. Well, he has a bf now which I didn’t expect to hurt so much. From what he said it seems like he started talking to his current bf right after him and I stopped talking, and he spends most of his time with him now. The conversation basically went:
Me: hey how’ve you been Him: I’ve been good, just doing an internship lately, hbu? Me: I’ve been good, you still at the same job you had before? Are you still living with your brother? Him: Yea but I’m rarely home now because I spend most of my time with my boyfriend.
And he went on to say that they met in early February (which is when him and I stopped talking), and became official in April. I feel kinda bad that he met someone else and became so involved with him so quickly, or like i did something wrong that this happened and I missed my opportunity with him due to the circumstances of me still figuring out my gender at the time him and I were talking. This is also my first time I’ve really had an ex officially date someone else (that I know of) which makes it feel worse. I’m worried about if I’ll ever find a guy as loyal as he seemed for example.

So I’ve been following this sub from the beginning of my pregnancy and now that baby girl has arrived I wanted to share my positive labor for any other first time moms that may be worried.
On the 4th of June I woke up and spent the day with mild period pains in my front and back and started to wonder if maybe this could be the start of labor or just random pregnancy twinges.
I went to bed that night and was still cramping and getting worse and about 4am I lost my mucus plug and contractions were definitely starting but were irregular.
I tried to get as much sleep as possible and rest, at 1pm on the 5th of june I went to the hospital as my contractions were starting to get a lot more painful but they were still quite irregular though aprox 10 minutes apart. I got checked and was only at 2cm dilated so they sent me home.
At 4pm i felt like an elastic band snap inside me and ten minutes later my water broke which in my case was definitely like the movies and gushed out.
I went straight back to the hospital and was now at 5cm with really painful contractions so at this point I ask for the epidural which gave me the best relief ever.
At around 9pm I was checked again and was now at 10cm dilated but my little girl was sunny side up so I had to spend the next couple of hours changing positions and trying to get her to turn without much success so we went ahead and started the pushing process.
I ended up pushing for 1h and 30 minutes until baby girl arrived at 00:46 weighing 8 pound 1 and only ended up having a first degree tear.
I was so worried about the birthing experience as I didn’t know what to expect but I had a great labor, if there is any advice I can give is that you shouldn’t put a lot of pressure on yourself to have or follow a birth plan, breathe through and ride out contractions and try and keep as calm as possible through the process.
I know not everyone has a great experience but as soon as you have your baby in your arms it’s all worth it.

I’m looking for a home safe to store a handgun, some documents, and maybe some other valuables. I want to prevent my daughter from being able to access it but I also need to be able to retrieve the handgun quickly in case I needed to. I was thinking I may need two separate safes. One for the handgun for quick access and another for miscellaneous items. Any help you can provide is appreciated.

My ex and i were in a short relationship a few years ago. We stayed friends after and he is now one of my closest friends. Sure it was a bit weird at first as the feelings were still present but since we broke up our relationship was purely platonic.
Last week we went to a party with some friends. Everything was as always. After the party he brought me home to make sure i'm safe and he wanted to wait for the next bus to get home himself. Nothing unusual, we have done this many times when we went clubbing together. Well this time we started cuddling as we were waiting which turned into making out and then hooking up. The next morning we just got dressed and talked like always and haven't even mentioned the hook up.
And i'm not sure if we should talk about it. We were both drunk and i don't think it would have happened if we were sober. I don't regret it but if i could go back then i would make sure it didn't happen. I don't want to hook up with him again and i don't want to be in a relationship with him. My feelings for him are purely platonic. But i'm not sure if he feels the same. We are both bad with talking about our feelings. Normally i would just act like nothing happened but it does complicate things, doesn't it? Is it really a good idea to be this close of friends? What if we get into new relationships? Before that night i could proudly say that even though we have history we have a purely platonic relationship. Well not anymore. I can't confidently tell a new partner that my ex isn't someone they should worry about.
We both hadn't been in relationships since we broke up. We went on dates with other people but nothing really stuck. I always thought that we might be a bit too close maybe and that our dynamic will greatly change once one of us gets into a relationship again. Well maybe it's already time that we put up boundaries. I don't know anymore.

Im fairly young, and Im quite weak. My running stamina and such are terrible, but Ive been meaning to take up a sport. I think archery sounds like a good way to build up my arm strength slowly, but how hard is it? Would I need to take classes every day, and how could I practice at home? I know little to nothing about the sport or expenses and I’m basically clueless. But archery is one of the few sports I haven’t tried yet, and I have hope for it.

AITA for going No Contact with my mother?
So, I (28F) was raised by my single father. I have had a rocky relationship with my mother (59F) my whole life, due to drugs and alcohol and gun violence. She is incredibly volatile, and has alienated a majority of her family due to her volatility. I can include more of that in comments if folks would like some backstory. So, my father (M76) had been struggling with esophageal cancer for 2 years, and it was approaching hospice time. Where my mother had been horrible, my father was exceptional. He was an amazing dad. As good and kind of a man as you could possibly imagine. I was taking care of him throughout his cancer, but I put aside the crappy relationship with my mom and called her.
My mother came up immediately to help. My father had been living with me so that I could take care of him, so I took off work to do full time home hospice. My fiancee (27F) had quit her job to help out as well.
In order to shorten this a bit, I’ll have to leave out the drama where she started stealing my liquor. I didn’t know she was back to drinking, she had been sober. I have a normal relationship to alcohol, and thus didn’t think about hiding my liquor from her when she came over.
There was so much manipulation that it would be hard to include everything she did during the month she stayed with my father and I. It was an incredibly stressful time for all of us. I tried to have sympathy for her stress levels as well.
One night, we had a different nurse come by. She told us to put liquid pain meds under my father’s tongue, as his feeding tube wasn’t an option at the moment. At this point, my father was non responsive. He was clearly on his way out. The nurse being a medical professional, I listened. Unfortunately, this caused my father to cough and choke on the meds. My fiancee and I suctioned until he stopped, and he got comfortable again. I called the nurse and explained what happened. She came up with a way to make his feeding tube viable again and that was that. I felt very bad for having made my father cough, but I thought I was doing right, as that is what I had been told. My mother had absolutely zero medical experience, but was incredibly mad at me for not listening to her suggestion not to. I was following medical advice. He was okay after the nurse's mistake. I thought it was over with.
She accused me of trying to drown my father. She kept yelling that I was drowning him. My fiancee politely asked her to stop. She said “this is a really stressful time for all of us, and OP already feels really bad. Can you please stop, this isn’t helping”. Then she started freaking out and yelling at me over everything. I had some martini glasses and a bar mat out to dry after washing. Me putting those away after drying was apparently offensive to her. She screamed at me about not trusting her with medical stuff, and she’s right, I didn’t. She had fucked up the antibiotics multiple times, and gave a medication that was contraindicated despite the nurse specifically telling her not to.
She started to threaten to leave. She was screaming at my fiancee even more than she was at me. The last straw was when she was screaming, and I quote, “I rebuke thee Satan!” directly in my fiancees face. I told her to get the fuck out. She started packing her bags. We had been going through family photos on the couch and coffee table together, she made sure to snatch those first. Then she said I’ll never have photos of my father, and why didn’t HE have childhood photos of me?? (He did. They’re in a large box in my closet.)
Importantly, she left one packet of photos on the couch. I saw them, and, afraid that she’d follow through on not letting me have any photos of my father, quickly took photos of them with my phone. My fiancee then put them on the coffee table between two books. My mom came out of the bathroom accusing me of having stolen photos from the room. I said I didn’t know what she was talking about, because I didn’t. I hadn’t stolen anything or even moved out of the chair I was sitting in. When I realized she was talking about the photos she left behind, I gave them to her immediately. She continued to accuse me of theft. This coming from a woman who has struggled with drugs and alcohol and various crimes her whole life, to her daughter that has never once even had a speeding ticket. But I’m a thief apparently. A normal person would have simply asked if they left those ones out there, but she can’t possibly do that.
All of this screaming while my father is literally on his death bed.
She left after midnight, screaming at me for over an hour. Had she refused to leave I would have called the cops. The next day I calmly asked her to scan copies of the photos. She continued to try to hold them over my head as leverage. Eventually she did, and dropped the copies off.
My father passed a week later. I briefly spoke to her at the funeral. I hugged her, but didn’t accept any apologies. I haven’t answered the phone since. I sent a Merry Christmas text but that’s it. The calls aren’t as frequent now. I think she’s gotten the message. My half brother still tells me to talk to her. I have no desire to talk to someone who would treat me so poorly. I don’t care that she’s my mother. She’s had her own health issues lately. Heart surgery, her own cancer treatments. I don’t care. As far as I’m concerned, I became an orphan when my father died.
Am I being unfair to her? Should I give her another chance?

So for context I was adding a gift card for Google play, I used the wrong account adding money to it and I was trying to link my account (the one with the gift card) to my pokemon home, I did but it won't use it and then gave me this error. It's something like initializing billing. Help???

I'm sorry dad I know you'll think I really didn't try or that I need to try harder but I've tried with everything I have to not be this way. Not just with you but for years before you caught me kissing my friend and for years after you thought I was fixed. I know I shouldn't have lied and i'm sorry for letting you think we got me passed it back then I truly thought I could beat this but dad i'm sick of hating myself. I feel like i'm at a breaking point and worst of all I know i'm hurting someone else now who I really care about. Honestly someone I think I love even though I know you'd say it isn't love.
I know you'd blame him for "tempting" me and leading me down the wrong path but thats not true he's a good man who makes me feel safe. He's the kind of guy that would literally give the shirt off his back to someone in need or drop everything to be there for someone he cares about. I can't tell you the number of times he's dropped whatever he's doing to comfort me or just hold me while I fall apart.
Dad no matter how many times i've tried to push him away he's still here fighting for me and no matter how many of your sermons I replay in my head I can't make this feel wrong anymore. I don't want to lose you or mom or any of our family but I can't fight this anymore. I know you expect me to be home soon for summer break but honestly I don't know if want to come home.

There’s a bubble tea festival at Swangard stadium. I see some tickets are on sale for $10 one day pass. The website says that you get special rewards or discounts at vendors but that’s vague. Did anyone go last year? Was it worth it?

The so-called Inhumans push, in spite of being a result of the decisions of a despicable person, was one of the best things to ever happen to Marvel Comics. For the first time in god knows how long, they were forcibly dragged into being innovative.
Innovation often comes from working around a limit, and not being able to use ol'reliable mutant origins did exactly that. They not only introduced a whole batch of fresh characters who were an actual minority rather than an allegory for one, all these untested, un-established new creations were immediately granted a solo book, which is still quite rare even today. Some of them worked, like Ms Marvel and Moon Girl, some dropped off the map like Mosaic but it was the fandom's general dislike of Perlmutter transferred onto the fictional race created in 64 by Jack Kirby, not the actual poor quality of the books themselves, that caused the drop in sales.
The fact that such a hated figure as Isaac Perlmutter was able to incentivize Marvel to create whole new successful IPs was a fortunate stroke of serendipity, which in my opinion shouldn't be allowed to go to waste so easily. Outside of the fandom, the Inhumans have near zero brand recognition and absolute zero political connotations, unlike say, Punisher. And yet Marvel had actively attempted and still attempts to 'reclaim' the Punisher from the far right. And even if they weren't fully successful on that front - Frank Castle is still getting published.
Why the hell not reclaim the Inhumans? The Ms Marvel series provided an excellent opportunity for that - I remember I genuinely expected up till the end that we would see some kind of Djinn city in the vein of Shannon Chakraborty's excellent Daevabad series, that would be basically Attilan but with a Middle Eastern flair. There was even a concept art of of such a city published on Twitter by one of the shows's concept artists, which was quickly taken down - no clue as to why.
But none of it matters now, the ship has sailed. I'm in the camp of 'Kamala wasn't broken and didn't need fixing', but maybe Kamala 2.0 will actually be even more successful than her old self. Let's wait and see.

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